Until recently, happiness seemed endless, your relationship was cloudless and beautiful. Or vice versa, there were difficulties, problems and worries, but that did not make you less joyful. After all, you loved and were near your beloved. But all at once everything collapsed. The reason for the separation is unimportant, pain always remains pain.
Instruction manual
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Allow yourself to feel the whole storm of emotions in order to survive the end of the relationship was easier. Do not keep feelings in yourself, relax, cry, shout into the pillow. Emotions that have not found a solution, hidden in the very depths of consciousness, will still not give you rest and sooner or later they will make themselves felt by a long depression or even a psychophysical disease. And having experienced all the pain that you actually experience, you will sooner come to your senses.
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Do not lock yourself. Communicate with loved ones, ask for their support. Staying alone with your own sorrows for a long time, you lose the opportunity to look at the situation from the other side. You begin to feel a sense of hopelessness, so the help of others will be invaluable: you will see that they also have work and concerns, which means that life goes on and there remains room for pleasant and useful events.
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Put off thinking about your own adversity. Use the method of M. Mitchell, which she endowed with the heroine of her novel Scarlett O'Hara, think about the problems tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. And even better, “later”, in the uncertain future, when the tension subsides, and there will be the possibility of a less emotional assessment of the situation.
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Fight your own fears. They are likely to launch an unexpected attack while you are weak. Do not allow yourself to think that this is the end, that you will never have such happiness / man / relationship. Remember that your beliefs can influence your worldview, and therefore life.
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Make an appointment with a psychologist. He will help you with the help of special techniques to "work out" feelings, get out of depression, answer yourself questions that haunt you. Or just call the helpline, write letters on some forum or site on topics that concern you. This technique gives, though not immediately, but tangible relief.
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Start a new life. Change everything you see fit in it. Find an unusual hobby for yourself, change your place of work, residence, if you feel such a need. In extreme cases, just change your image: get a haircut, update part of the wardrobe. After going through all the previous steps, you probably already want something new.
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Work on perceiving yourself. It should not be for you a man to become the center of the universe. This usually happens with women whose self-esteem is lowered, they are sure that only being in a relationship they are happy. Learn to enjoy all aspects of life. Then you will feel its fullness and new relationships will not keep you waiting, giving you a new portion of pleasant emotions.