Life repeatedly confronts us with a choice. And every time, despite previous experience, we run the risk of being at an impasse. Therefore, you must be familiar with the methodology for evaluating various options. Simply put, you need to know exactly how to make a choice.
Instruction manual
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List all the possible paths that are offered to you. Do this exercise in writing. The longer the list, the more options you have. The people around you are imposing some ways. Some options appear due to sudden circumstances. There are still alternatives inspired by your own principles, dreams, goals. Work on the list as carefully as possible. Do not miss even those options that you do not really like. In the process of analysis, they may prompt you to unexpected thoughts. Therefore, write down absolutely everything. Remember the people who were previously in your position. What ways did they go further in life?
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Analyze each path for distance from your goal. Now you should evaluate all the alternatives. Write all the options on separate sheets of paper. Then cut these sheets into strips so that only one option is recorded on each stripe. Divide all the strips into 3 groups. In the 1st group should be options that directly lead to your goal, even if they are not to your liking. In the 2nd group, put those paths that you like most, but can lead somewhere to the side. These are the paths that you prefer based on emotions. For example, a friend or girlfriend approves of this choice. In group 3, identify those options that take too far away from your goal. There may be ways that someone imposes on you from the side. You do not need to neglect them, just put them in a separate group.
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Choose a path that is in harmony with your goal. In each group, select only one such path. You should evaluate all the alternatives, given that you can’t tear in all directions. Look at this process as if from the side, as if you are making a choice for an outsider. Even in the 3rd group there may be a way in which harmony with your main goal is traced.
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Get away from everyone for the ultimate choice. Now you have 3 ways, the best, taking into account the interests of all parties. Justify for yourself which path is closer to you. Do not worry now about what other people will think. Imagine that you are the last person on earth and no one else, all temporarily left for Mars. The fate of all mankind depends on your choice.
note
Relatives can insist on their version of your life. Do not be offended by them for this, treat with understanding. They only wish you to live better than they did. But will you be happy doing someone else’s will? - Solve this issue with your soul, so that later you do not regret the years of life spent.
Useful advice
When you talk with loved ones about your choice, let me know that you had 3 main options. Thus, you emphasize that the choice was made consciously, after a deep analysis. At a minimum, you will be respected for taking into account possible alternatives.