Human tactlessness often baffles. The curiosity of others causes discomfort and causes a feeling of awkwardness. What if the interlocutor asks questions regarding his personal life, or circumstances in which I would not want to devote outsiders? How to make clear to the interlocutor that it is impossible to cross the line?
Everyone has secrets, life circumstances in which you would not want to devote random people, and simply unpleasant topics that you would not want to discuss. If your life arouses the curiosity and interest of others, this does not mean that you must open your soul to each of them.
“Why don't you give birth to a child?”, “Are you getting a divorce?”, “Have you not married yet?”, “Have you married her?”, “Do you have something with her (with him)?” - These and similar questions often spoil the mood and cause a desire to end the conversation, or even fall through the ground. It is worth taking the lead from the interlocutor - and after a few minutes you will begin to regret that the conversation took the form of a discussion of your personal life. Moreover, often such forced frankness becomes an occasion for gossip.
In such cases, do not be embarrassed. It is necessary to clearly define the boundaries. for which the interlocutor should not go, and make this clear.
People ask tactless questions following different motives. We can always feel in the question of the interlocutor - does he do it out of stupidity or in his desire to ask an uncomfortable question lies envy, gloating, insidious intent. Based on this, you should choose a line of behavior in which everything that you say to the interlocutor will never be used against you. In other words, you should be prepared for such a situation so as not to go into your pocket for a word.
If a person in front of you is, in general, sincere, and asked a question about the simplicity of the soul (or rather, about the stupidity), it is enough to gently put it in its place. Here, a reproachful perplexed look and a short one clearly work out: "Well, you give … ask such questions." If the relationship is trusting, we can say: "Let's not talk about sad things, " "It's complicated." You can safely notice that you do not want to discuss the topic of interest at the moment. The main thing is to prevent the interlocutor from catching on at an awkward moment, and to smoothly translate the topic of conversation to something neutral.
If you have a person who asks a question about your personal life, holding a stone in his bosom, you can answer more audaciously. "And where is such an interest in my homely person?" Or: "Do you want to talk about this? Do you think we have similar problems?"
If a question has put you in an awkward situation, try to skillfully return the "pebble to your garden" - to answer a question with a question. “Have you been abandoned by your boyfriend?”, “Do you care about my personal life?”, “Do you like to keep candles in all bedrooms, or only in mine?”, “Well, stick your nose into other people's affairs for you in the order of things? " - such wording will confuse the impudent interlocutor and confuse him. Do not be afraid of your own malice - this works without fail, and for the future you will protect yourself from unpleasant curiosity. It is important to maintain icy calm and give the face an expression of mocking irony. As they say - smile, it is insanely annoying people!
If the interlocutor is acting impudently, you can say: “I will inform you of my press conference when I find the time for this. For now, write down all the questions on a piece of paper and prepare for this event properly.” However, if the interlocutor is unpleasant for you, you can smile with all your heart and, looking directly into your eyes, confidently say: "Of course, I do not want to offend you, but this is my dog business."
The main thing is not to pretend that you were touched by an awkward question. Smile, joke, turn on your wit at full power. Your sense of humor will charm those who treat you sincerely, and gossip and ill-wishers will scare them away for a long time.