The criteria of normality are very relative. First of all, they depend on the external environment and its laws. However, there are a number of universal principles through which you can learn to behave normally.
You will need
- - self-control;
- - introspection.
Instruction manual
one
Try to analyze why you have a similar question at all. Taunts and comments of others, a feeling of discomfort when in an unfamiliar environment, uncontrolled behavior: there can be many disturbing factors. In addition, you should be clearly aware that your concern about “normality” is actually justified, and not the result of excessive self-criticism.
2
Fix your behavior, asking the key question: "Do my actions lead to the desired result?". For example, if you are faced with the task of getting from point A to point B, but in the end you find yourself in a completely different place, it is worth doubting the adequacy of your behavior. Compliance with the result is one of the key criteria for normality.
3
Once in a new unfamiliar environment, follow its internal rules. At the same time, keep in mind that most of them will be unofficial. How quickly you draw the appropriate conclusions and become part of the environment will become a catalyst for your normality. A vivid example: entering a new job. Dress code, internal etiquette, corporate communication rules, reporting algorithm, contacts with colleagues outside the service - these are the moments that your normal behavior will add up to.
4
Draw a clear line between normality and originality (creativity). It is possible you have your own ways of expressing yourself. It can be creative clothes, shocking manner of communication, non-standard habits. However, all this should not cause obvious problems to others. For example, if the listeners are amazed and shocked by your monologue on a creative evening, you will still remain within the framework of adequacy. But if at the same time you cause fear and collective unwillingness to communicate with you, it is advisable to reconsider your behavior.
5
Do not give vent to aggression. Such behavior is justified only in exceptional cases, for example, with a real threat to life. In all other situations, uncontrolled outbursts of anger have nothing to do with normal behavior.