The desire to get rid of the bad in yourself is a good sign that indicates that a person is becoming mature. Self-improvement work requires a lot of time and serious efforts, however, its fruits can significantly change your life for the better.
Instruction manual
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Start training your intellect, develop aesthetic taste, take care of your body. A.P. It’s not without reason that Chekhov said that everything should be perfect in a person. Everything in life is interconnected, one entails the other. As soon as you begin to get rid of some features, others will begin to appear in their place. And it depends on you what they will be. Read good books, watch classic movies, visit museums, exhibitions, galleries. Art ennobles a person, with it you will become better and more harmonious.
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Form a new environment. The character of a person is constantly formed and significantly depends on the people who surround him. With well-read and educated people you will become more intelligent, and in the company of individuals who are only interested in beer and football, you will also lose interest in something else. Try to be friends and communicate closely only with people you want to be like.
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The psychological technique of self-control will help get rid of the bad in yourself. Make a list of the characteristics that you would like to change in yourself. Each negative trait has its own positive reflection: laziness - industriousness, deceit - truthfulness, aggressiveness - kindness, indifference - attentiveness. Add to your specifications those that you want to receive.
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Choose your worst trait that you would like to change first. Describe in detail how this feature is manifested, what exactly it is bothering you with. Then imagine a typical situation in which your negative characteristic is clearly manifested. Think and write down the desired behavior in such a situation.
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Start training yourself with the scenario you want. Let's say you want to get rid of excessive temper. Remember the vivid case when temper brought you down, but instead of an aggressive reaction, play a positive scenario in your head. Repeat this exercise until the desired reaction begins to manifest itself involuntarily.
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In life, try to keep track of situations in time that can lead to an explosion of anger. Stop the evil words and repeat the ones that were rehearsed. Do not be discouraged if you do not get it right away. Continue to work on yourself, and you will get rid of everything bad.
Useful advice
Before you start work on getting rid of the bad in yourself, soberly assess the need for fundamental changes. Some negative traits are simply necessary in modern society. Healthy egoism, for example, will not allow people to use you for their own purposes, and incredulity will save you from deception. Appreciate your individuality and do not strive for ideality - it is unattainable.