Everyone has an internal judge, the only difference is that for some he is calm and impartial, while for others, on the contrary, he is soft and loyal. Paradoxical as it may seem, talking with yourself is sometimes the most difficult. Usually what we are trying to teach is what we need to learn most of all. But the simplest questions are sometimes the most difficult. You need to start with understanding.
Instruction manual
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What is the spirit of contradiction? No matter how trite this may sound, but feelings show us what our soul wants much earlier than we have time to think about it. The desire to argue or disagree has the same roots. As soon as there is a feeling that they are trying to impose their will on us, the instinct of self-preservation is triggered, and the defensive program is activated. On the contrary, when the proposed option coincides with internal needs and desires, we easily make contact, show willingness to give in and support the idea. However, along with everyday everyday situations, there are cases where the need to do one way or another is determined not by our needs, but by such a word as “necessary”. Acting ordinary is normal, but only on condition that you do not feel ordinary. Before making any decision, think about who needs it, and who said it should be that way? Life will change only if you first imagine it the way you want to see it. Learn to say no to others and life to yes.
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We always talk about what we want. The flip side of the spirit of contradiction is the desire to preserve the semblance of the world in any way. However, a bad world is not always better than a good quarrel. One way or another, but sooner or later a boiling point comes, and then we give out the whole truth. Then we are surprised that this has found such a thing on us, other than a lunar eclipse, magnetic storms, high blood pressure, or should we drink less? Everything is much simpler.
No man will ever say that which he does not think, even while being in a hop. Christ said: "wine strengthens the soul." It’s just that, usually by virtue of upbringing, we are silent about a lot, hide and try to be gentle and courteous. But that which is hidden and suppressed does not go anywhere. Negative emotions, accumulating, like interest on a bank account, are just waiting for the moment when it will be possible to break out. And then hold on to everything, there will be no mercy.
Typically, such a discharge gives only temporary relief to you and a lot of trouble for someone who fell under the "hot hand". Keeping everything in yourself is bad. Any situation, not being lived, will be repeated again and again. Learn to correctly express your thoughts, convey to your opponent a point of view. In this case, you will be more respected and appreciated. This is better than accepting a feeling of complete helplessness and inability to stand up for oneself. If you want to be reckoned with you, learn to respect and love yourself. To please everyone and everyone is not only impossible, but also stupid.
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There is a saying: "Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today." We live in a world of deals, troubles and worries, and who will choose the key to happiness for us? Perseverance and perseverance in achieving goals - this is very good, however, the goal does not always justify the means. Although most likely just the target is chosen incorrectly. What gives joy is easy. Spending maximum effort, we do not feel tired or depressed, but rather, luck gives strength and makes it possible to move forward.
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But if the goal is chosen incorrectly, then, no matter how we convince ourselves, everything goes wrong from the very beginning. We have to make incredible efforts in order to get at least something. But no matter how hard we try, the tower will collapse sooner or later, and the moment may not be the most suitable. Therefore, the feeling called "I do not want to" is not laziness and a desire to relax, rather a signal that says that something is going wrong. No one except you will tell where this desire came from, so ask less questions and listen more, not just others, but yourself.
note
It’s not scary to die at the age of twenty, it’s scary to live ninety and suddenly realize that you never really lived.
Useful advice
The biggest fallacy of humanity is that we are always looking for some kind of hidden meaning. In fact, he is not. We came to this world in order to simply be happy. Therefore, drop fears, doubts and allow yourself, finally, to do what you love most.