An independent person, as a rule, gets much more pleasure from life than the one for whom others make decisions. He is the creator of his fate, he chooses where to live and work, with whom to build relationships and where to go to relax. At the same time, it is never too late to become independent.
Instruction manual
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Strive to take responsibility. Especially if you haven’t done it before. Do not shy away from uncomplicated tasks - for example, reserve the honorable duty to feed the cat, but do not be alarmed when you are offered to do something large-scale - take on a large project, take a higher position. Once you see that you are successfully coping with the duties that have befallen you, your fear of responsibility will significantly decrease.
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Write on a piece of paper activities that you did not do before, but then learned, and also write in a separate column what you would like to master. For example, before you did not know how to pay utility bills, but for several months in a row you have successfully dealt with this task, and now you would like to learn how to place orders in foreign online stores and pay with a card. The more things that you have successfully mastered, you will be typed, the more confident you will feel.
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Learn to justify any decision you make. You went to work in a company because you were paid a salary, and the boss seemed kind and conflict-free, you bought this model of a multicooker because it has all the modes you were looking for, you ordered a chocolate cake because you love chocolate. The fewer unconscious actions there will be in your life when you yourself cannot say why you did this, the easier it will be for you.
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Learn new knowledge. An independent person understands many areas and strives to become even more intelligent and versatile. Feel free to sign up for cooking and accounting courses, master oriental dances and website development. Find suitable schools, earn money to attend classes, and then put your knowledge into practice.
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An independent person is strong and generous. If before you needed someone's help, now you can provide it to others. Tell the way to the confused passerby, help the old woman bring bags to the apartment, get the children a rolled ball. You can also volunteer: help orphanages abandoned by animals, collect things that you don’t use, and pass them on to poor people.
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Do not be embarrassed by failure and record your success. Encourage yourself: pamper yourself with a chocolate bar or go to the spa. After all, you are an adult and an independent person, you achieve your goals and you can allow yourself to relax periodically.