Being attractive to people is not as easy as it seems at first glance. To attract a person, it is necessary to have a number of qualities that are not given to everyone.
Instruction manual
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The first thing that will attract another person in you is your appearance. Neat, discreet clothes should go to you and emphasize the characteristics of the personality. When you feel the harmony of the external with the internal, it will no longer be important whether you are in a simple suit or in an extravagant dress - you will be interested in your whole image.
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Be friendly and affable, but do not lose yourself behind these manifestations. Often, in order to please, we stare into the eyes, constantly smile and nod, but this is hardly so attractive from the outside. Especially if you are not a sociable optimist, your behavior will look cloying and somewhat hypocritical, so be yourself.
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Try to listen attentively and with interest to the person and ask questions on occasion. But in parallel with this, do not forget to express your original position on some issue, and if it seems interesting to a person, he will look at you differently, and a mutual relationship will form between you.
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Keep an open pose and do not hide somewhere in the corner. Freedom of movement and movement indicates internal freedom, and this quality is very attractive to people, especially those who are somewhat constrained and clamped. Find the very middle where you can feel at home and at the same time be polite and considerate.
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By repeating the name of the person you want to attract, you unconsciously give him a compliment. In childhood, we were often called by name, but with age this happens less and less. A person more often sees his name written on paper, so these sounds, unexpectedly uttered by you, will undoubtedly revive the interlocutor, delight and fill him with a sense of gratitude to you.
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Be kind and open. You should feel a sincere craving for a person, a desire to help him in something, to share some periods of life with him. If a person feels that he can trust you that you are a nonrandom passer-by in his life, then the chances of future communication are much greater. He should not think that you need something from him, everything should be just the opposite - you need to appear his need for you. To do this, mentally send a person your positive energy, direct it in his direction.
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At the end of the conversation, make a small clue, in popular psychology this is called "cast a hook or anchor." You must do something that does not complete your communication, but will involve some kind of meeting in the future. It may be something simple, for example, invite a person to go together to an exhibition of interest to both of you, or to visit you, where you have a collection of stones.
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Or make a more subtle gesture - give something. It should be something insignificant, but something that will often be in front of a person: a keychain, pen, magnet or postcard on the wall. When you transfer this item, transfer part of your energy with it. Also, you can give a book to read, which involves a further meeting to return and discuss impressions.
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Do not be afraid. Fear is felt strongly, because this is that pulsating nervous energy, next to which it is not so pleasant. You may be embarrassed, but in no case be afraid. In addition, this paralyzing feeling will deprive you of the charm so necessary to attract a person.