In Pushkin’s play “Boris Godunov, ” the dying king, while instructing his teenage son who was to take the throne, emphasized: “Be spoken a little! The tsar’s voice should not be lost in the open.” The father was absolutely right, and it was not his fault that the fate of the son in the play was very sad. Some people wonder: how do they behave in order to be heard.
Instruction manual
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Perhaps the worst, most unfortunate way is to go around with your opinion and impose it, even when it comes to things that you are poorly versed in. Believe me, you will achieve the exact opposite effect by earning a reputation not as a connoisseur, but as an empty talker, a treacher. And then in a situation where you really have something to say, your opinions will simply be simply brushed aside or condescendingly let him pass by.
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Remember the simple truth: "To be heard, learn to listen yourself!" Treat your interlocutors politely, respectfully. Do not interrupt them, let them finish to the end. Even if you completely disagree with what they said, do not use derogatory expressions like: "What nonsense!" Refrain from scornfully sarcastic facial expressions, gestures. After all, you can express disagreement, convince yourself that you are right, without humiliating the dignity of your opponent.
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Take the immutable rule: speak only on the merits and only on topics in which you feel like a fish in water. Starting your speech, do not beat around the bush, do not go astray on minor details. Try to get right to the point, speak clearly, clearly, convincingly. By acting this way, you will quickly earn the reputation of a person who says reasonable things, the words of which are worth listening to.
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If you are objected, in no case do not get personal, do not humiliate your opponent: they say who you are to argue with me! Even if his objections are, to put it mildly, stupid. Calmly and reasonably prove your case.
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In the event that a serious discussion is to be held (for example, an important meeting is scheduled), be sure to try to prepare for it in advance. Think through your speech by clearly dividing it into a short introduction, body, and conclusions. If you need any statistics to be more convincing, find them and write them down so as not to forget during your speech. Try to predict what objections, counterarguments other participants in the conversation may have, and think about how best to refute them by insisting on your opinion.