If there is an energy vampire among friends, the surest and easiest way to get rid of its effects is to minimize contacts with this person or even break off any connection. But what if it’s impossible to do this? How to resist the energy vampire?
Control over emotions and reactions. Being near an energy vampire, it can be very difficult to control your emotions and follow actions. This is especially difficult for people who, by nature, tend to be victims of such personalities, have a soft character and easily fall into the network of manipulation. However, we must try not to be fooled by provocations. It is worth being as discreet as possible, maintaining a certain distance, and not conducting long conversations with a toxic person. If you get the feeling that it’s becoming very difficult to maintain a strong emotional reaction, you need to leave the room where the energy vampire is at least temporarily.
Learn to say no and not be afraid of tactlessness. It is important to remember that energy vampires are very easily rubbed into trust and violate all sorts of personality boundaries. They can be arrogant, self-confident. Do not be afraid to refuse such a person, to be afraid to offend or offend him. Sometimes, the best way to counter such a toxic personality is to attack. Do not stoop to rudeness and very rude answers, but you need to learn how to defend your personal boundaries. Everyone has the right to say no in response to any requests or requirements, this should always be remembered. However, it is important to refrain from disputes, especially emotional ones, with energy vampires. It’s best to calmly, but as firmly as possible, in a nutshell explain your position, and then complete the communication. In addition, a closed pose - arms or legs crossed - can help withstand pressure from the side. It is not recommended to look the energy vampire in the eye, so as not to establish a strong emotional contact in this way.
The ban on revelation. Trusting and open people who readily share their feelings and thoughts, very attract the attention of energy vampires. It’s easier to “breed” such people, to provoke them, and to manage them easier. Toxic personalities have a peculiarity: to wrap all the revelations and secrets that they heard against the person. Therefore, you should try not to tell the energy vampire about your feelings and worries, the negative emotions of such people attract and nourish even more. In addition, we must try to create such a situation when communicating with the energy vampire, so that he also could not talk much, long and openly about the hardships and sorrows of his life. By reassuring or comforting the energy vampire, the victim only strengthens the bond with his tormentor. You need to be as cold as possible about the flow of information from a toxic person, mentally close yourself from his emotional impact, not believe everything you hear, since energy vampires have a very strong tendency to lie.
Mirroring This method usually works great, and is available to every donor donor. Forcing in contact with an energy vampire, one must begin to mirror his pose, his movements, facial expressions, intonations in his voice, and so on. From the outside, this may look very comical, but energy vampires are extremely negative about such behavior and, as a rule, leave their victim alone faster. Jokes, a frivolous attitude to the words of a toxic person act as special irritants that will discourage such a person.