Without thoughts, there is no consciousness. According to the catch phrase, a person thinks, therefore, he exists. It turns out that to think is to some extent an action that can be performed either true or false. You can learn to think correctly if you practice for a long time following several points that form the basis of correct thinking.
Instruction manual
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Forget about emotions. Emotions are a destabilizing factor for your mind. You have heard more than once or twice, and you yourself have fallen into a condition that can be called "clouding of the mind." Of course, it is impossible to completely abandon emotions, but for a short time you need to abstract from them so that you can impose a certain logic.
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In order to think correctly, you need to remember that during your actions there are three positions: yours, which carries out the action, the position of the person to whom the action is directed, and the position of the observer who looks from the side. In the language of psychology, these positions are called the first, second and third positions, respectively.
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The first time, stand in your position. Evaluate the validity, reasonableness and reasons that prompted you to action. Evaluate based on what is valuable and priority for you.
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Then move to the second position. Assess the situation on the part of the person in relation to whom the action is being performed. Consider options for whether he expects this action, how he sees it and what thoughts this action will motivate him.
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Now get into the third position. Look at the situation from the side, justify the validity of the action without taking into account the premises with the language of logic. Separate sufficient from insufficient. Move through all three positions until you reach the optimal result you need.
Useful advice
You should not be stuck in one position for a long time - you must look at the situation from all sides at once, only in this way you will achieve the perfect solution.