In life, we often encounter situations where we need to do something, but … it's scary. So how can you become bolder and stop putting off some things for later?
This is the whole point of human nature - to postpone as far as possible an unpleasant choice for us. Unfortunately, waiting tactics only increase our fear. Everything has a price. Each time, putting off an important conversation, we make it more and more frightening for our imagination due to the fact that we also have more time for excitement. So some phobias are formed. Ultimately, all these deferred business snowballs fall on important areas of our lives, for example, relationships or careers. Moreover, over time, such a habit of wandering off leads to a decrease in stress resistance, which is precisely formed from overcoming such small life challenges.
All we need is to develop a kind of impulse that will make us immediately rush into the pool with our heads and instantly solve an unpleasant question. So the main task is to maximize the chances of action and minimize it by fear.
1. Long Thoughts - The First Step to Squirt
The worst thing in this situation is to be refused. But the fact is that courage and determination also have an expiration date. So if you decide to have a serious conversation, for example, just talk. No need to wait for the right moment, do it now.
2. Focus on overcoming yourself
First, decide on the content of the conversation and on the result that you want to come to in the long run. After that, decide which first phrase you say. Many people for weeks simply cannot decide to start a conversation. The hardest part is to get started. Further it will be easier.
3. Do this in a less intimidating environment.
For example, if you have little experience in public speaking, and you have a big speech in front of an audience, practice in a less formal setting. Talk to a random passerby asking him the way. Repeat this several times. Try reading an excerpt from your favorite work in front of your homework. Noticing their interest, you will very soon want to add expressiveness and emotionality. You need to get used to the fact that people are listening to you, interacting with you. After that, you will come on stage as a man who knows how to wield the attention of the audience.
4. Think about the consequences.
About the positive, of course. Consider what kind of freedom you finally feel when you deal with an unpleasant business. It's like exams: once passed, and then the whole summer lies ahead.
5. Think about the prospects
This is especially true for parting with something old. For example, it can be difficult for you to end a relationship that continues simply by inertia. Yes, change consumes a lot of internal resources, but still they bring long-awaited freedom and relief.
6. Set the deadline
An important conversation should be like going to the doctor: precisely appointed and absolutely inevitable. The specific date for your conversation will make you finally decide on it.