Philophobia is a strong, often on the verge of panic, fear of love. People in such fear are afraid to maintain love relationships, which are based on mutual feelings, respect and trust. They feel comfortable only with partners who treat them rudely, disdainfully, humiliate them and even resort to physical violence. How to deal with phylophobia?
The reasons for the appearance of phylophobia
To defeat phylophobia, you need to know its cause. Often, the reason is unwillingness or fear of taking responsibility for the fate of the person you love. Fear of love can also arise from a previous love that has remained unrequited, or from several unsuccessful novels. Then a person can convince himself that he is unattractive, doomed to loneliness. There are also cases when phylophobia is a consequence of fears of losing freedom, independence.
In order to get rid of phylophobia in such cases, you need to resort to self-hypnosis and increase your self-esteem. A man needs to convince himself: he has something to love for, and he himself can make his partner happy. As for the loss of freedom, love relationships, of course, impose certain restrictions on partners, but you can easily come to terms with this.
The main thing is not to get hung up on your feelings or your previous unsuccessful love experience. If you are not lucky before, this does not mean that it will always be so.
Philophobia often also occurs after the tragedy associated with love relationships. For example, one of the partners experienced a strong insult, betrayal by the other. Or the couple broke up after the death of their common child. In such cases, as a rule, the help of a qualified psychotherapist is necessary to get rid of folophobia.