Another person can never be fully understood. It’s like a foreign language, a foreign culture - you can know the facts well, but understanding is another matter. But you can feel it. But efforts for this need to be applied by no means less.
Instruction manual
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To feel a person, you need to be on the same wavelength with him. To be on the same wavelength with him, you need to know him. Therefore, first of all, pay attention to his hobbies, to the thoughts that he is occupied when he has free time. Try to think about what he thinks, and just as he thinks. To do this, of course, you need to be close to the person and be at least in friendship with him. It is unlikely that you will be able to truly feel a person who is far from you and does not strive for rapprochement.
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The next stage is the human soul, no matter how brutal it may sound. You need to realize what a person is - he is kind, irritable, unpredictable. Try to get into the most secret corners of a person’s soul, but so that he doesn’t notice. As the operation is done under general anesthesia, in our case the vigilance of the “victim” should be euthanized. And can anyone really call a person a "victim" here? After all, if you try to “feel” a person, just feel, and not learn, suppose, about the motives of his actions and plans, then you only treat him positively and wish only good.
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Pay attention to how it relates to other people. Often a person suddenly destroys all established ideas about him at one moment - from quietly turns into a real devil, from a talkative, cheerful badass to a dull pessimist. Look at how he relates to animals, to children, to the elderly. After all, these are creatures that are weaker than him, and in the way he relates to them, many character traits that you might not even have suspected are manifested.
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Finally, pay attention to what films he watches, what books he reads. Try to ask what he sees in those books and films that fascinate him. Read and see for yourself, pay attention to them and you will not regret it: often what a person is interested in tells much more about him than he himself ever decides to tell even his closest friend. Also observe how he is fond of all of this: do his hobbies reach fanaticism, or does everything remain within reasonably reasonable limits? Think about how you would behave.
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And, of course, the best way to feel a person is to become close to him, to make him that "most important" that is in life. Sometimes it takes years, for example, for some spouses. Some, having stood on the same wave with each other, diverge, giving their relations one more chance. A person’s feelings are a very slippery area, and even the smallest step to the side, or too coarse stamping, or procrastination, vegetation in place, can face irreversible consequences. Be careful, as with the most expensive crystal.