Looking into the eyes or not? Many people are puzzling over this issue. It is believed that they do not look in the eye only when they are deceiving. And psychologists assure that this is not so, and offer several options for possible reasons why a person during a conversation may not look into the eyes of another.
British scientists conducted a series of experiments and found out that in just one second of time, when people look into each other's eyes, they receive such an amount of information that they can receive in three hours of active communication. This is partly why it is constantly very difficult to look into the interlocutor’s eyes and a person has to look away.
In addition, it is proved that when a person constantly looks at the other and eyes in the eyes, it is very annoying and makes you nervous. After all, it seems that he is trying to "read" you. And nobody wants this.
In some cases, looking away to the side during a conversation is considered a sign of shyness, which is scientifically confirmed. With a glance you can give out all your attitude to the object, since interest, love and interest make the eyes shine in a special way. And if a person does not want you to understand his feelings right now (maybe too early?), Then he will not be able to look into your eyes constantly.
It is impossible to look into the eyes of the person whose eyes are "boring", heavy. Literally from the first seconds of communication with such an interlocutor, it becomes very uncomfortable, unpleasant and uncomfortable. Such a look presses and forces you to look away.
Self-doubt is another point why people cannot look directly into their eyes. If your interlocutor picks something in the hands of a conversation, nervously wrinkles a napkin, tugs at his ears, tip of his nose or hair, then he gives out deep emotional excitement. This means that he will avoid direct contact with his eyes, as he is not sure of his actions. And he does not know what exactly needs to be done now and what look is most appropriate for you to “send”.
Of course, there are times when a person does not look into the eyes of the interlocutor simply because the latter is not interesting to him. Then it makes no sense to exchange information both verbally and nonverbally. Recognize that the reason is precisely in boredom as quickly as possible, so as not to lead unnecessary conversations. In addition, it is quite simple to do. In addition to the gaze, a person will show other signs of disinterest: underlined glancing at his watch, sometimes yawning, constantly interrupting a conversation under the pretext of answering a phone call, etc. In this case, it is better to say goodbye to the interlocutor as soon as possible.
If you want to not have problems with communication, practice not to look away when talking. Then it will be easier for you to make new friends and build a working relationship.