Tears are a great way to relieve internal stress, give vent to negative emotions, and in many cases crying can be very useful. But there are situations when to show one’s weakness, vulnerability or emotion is to lose. How to hold back tears, if you can’t cry, but really want to?
Instruction manual
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The first thing to do is try to calm down and get a little distracted. Take 10-15 slow deep breaths, concentrating as much as possible on the breathing process. Sometimes this is enough to not burst into tears.
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Try to "switch" attention. For example, remember what is written in your passport - on all its pages (last name, first name, patronymic, date of issue, address of registration, and so on), count the buttons on the clothes of the person you are talking to or stripes on the carpet, repeat the multiplication table by seven.
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The most common reason for “eyes in a wet place” is strong, uncontrolled emotions. And one way to keep oneself from tears is to "switch" from mental suffering to physical. Cutting off your ear, like Van Gogh, of course, is superfluous - it is enough to pinch yourself or bite your tongue or lips. This is a fairly effective way to hold back tears and bring yourself to life.
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If the reason for the tears is an insult to a specific person, try mentally redirecting the emotions that you experience from yourself to him. For example, if the boss didn’t make you an undeserved mess, do not spare yourself. Better get mad at her
or find out what to pity her for (and her nerves are good for nothing, and the climax is soon, and the haircut is unsuccessful). Or you can mentally laugh at the offender - dress in a clown costume, turn into a crow or a frog
Anything - just to disappear the feeling that this person is a threat to you personally.
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In order not to cry immediately after a conversation, drink half a glass of water or non-hot tea (slowly, in small sips), and wash yourself with cool water as soon as possible, or at least wipe your face with a damp cloth. And immediately get distracted by any business that is not directly related to the fact that it almost made you cry - this will help you consolidate the result.