Enemies can be defeated, but not as fast as we would like. First, you need to determine exactly which enemies you want to defeat. After all, enemies can be called domestic insects. As for the victory itself, then for someone to prevail in a major dispute means to defeat the enemy. The degree of your victory over them will depend on how correctly you define your enemies. So, let's begin.
You will need
Good communication skills
Instruction manual
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Defeat the harassment of colleagues. Unfortunately, the place of work can turn into a battlefield, where psychological harassment becomes the main weapon. If you become an object of harassment, do not panic. Try to resolve the misunderstanding as soon as possible. It makes no sense to look for those responsible for their acquittal purposes. Do not take your colleagues as coalition forces, but look for an approach to each individual. Respectfully and unobtrusively, trying to defuse the situation, ask specific questions to the main mocker. Follow your words. It is important not only what you say, but also in what tone you communicate with provocateurs. A good guide for you is the advice of the wise king Solomon: “A meek answer averts rage, and a hurtful word arouses anger.” Friendliness and warmth can melt the ice of distrust and prejudice. Maintain a friendly attitude. Of course, this does not mean that you need to become a flatterer and a sneak. You are not at all obliged to meekly carry out all the work that is being put on you and to sacrifice your principles for the sake of victory.
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Defeat your habits. According to the Canadian newspaper The Globe and Mail, more than 14% of the country's population are enslaved by nervous habits. We are talking about such habits as winding hair on a finger, damping or swaying a foot, biting off nails. According to Paul Kelly, a psychologist, such actions are explained by the stress of a person "captured" and in need of help to overcome stress. According to the aforementioned newspaper, according to experts, you can develop a strategy and learn how to suppress this in yourself. When you notice nervous movements, you need to focus on calm positive moments. In addition, a lot of people are defeated by such habits as the tendency to put off everything until tomorrow, sitting too long watching TV shows, aimless shopping. Whatever you have to fight personally, be sure of your victory. Bad habits are like paths that a person walks for decades. But, if you start to lay new paths, then the old ones will simply overgrow. Pave a new course of action in repeated situations. You don’t have to keep the same course of thought. Let the realization that bad habits are cruel gentlemen be another incentive to victory.
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Overcome despair. Personal shortcomings or shortcomings of others sometimes lead us into a state of frustration. In this case, you must honestly admit that it is impossible to completely protect yourself from any carelessly spoken word or thoughtless act. However, you should not raise the white flag, allowing the winner to take away your joy. Such an enemy as depression can sometimes be defeated thanks to a good rest and a good meal. Big problems seem much less if you need to get enough sleep. But if the problem is not solved in this way, then you need the authoritative help of the allies to defeat despair. The necessary encouragement can be obtained from mature friends. But in this case, you need to take the initiative. Without blaming anyone, tell us about your experiences. Speak specifically what events have unsettled you and what needs to be changed. Ask for advice. By accepting help, and courageously standing in personal difficulties, such as hurt feelings or loss of a loved one, you win another victory. Thousands were able to defeat despondency and continue to live a full-blooded life.
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Choose your friends very carefully.
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