The tension of modern life, economic and social troubles give rise to negative emotions in society. Almost daily it happens to face unjustified malice, taunts or bullying. How to behave with the offender and how to respond to the offense?
Instruction manual
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Listen to the end without interrupting. After the offender finished his speech, threw out his first emotions, and there was a pause, take the situation into your own hands. Make a gesture with your hand, as if stopping it, and at the same time, in a firm calm tone, say that he has the right to emotions, but should not go on insults.
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Take control of your emotions, then your decisions on how to respond to the offense will be more successful. Sometimes the best way to deal with petty rudeness and nit-picking is to completely ignore them. Switch your attention from offensive barbs, perceive them as a general background (the wind is noisy, the birds are screaming
) Do not let others provoke you and control your emotions. To make it easier to follow this recommendation, imagine the offender a miserable, wet, yapping dog. If you are offended in a public place, on the street, in the subway, think carefully before striving to punish the offender. Indeed, in such a situation, there is a high probability of collision with a very aggressive type of people who are used to using brute force to sort things out. In this case, it is better to calmly move away from possible troubles. Let the fact that your offender with such a character be sure to get what he deserves, even if not at this moment, and not from you, be a consolation.
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Give a decisive rebuff in a situation where it becomes impossible to ignore the offender. Answer beautifully with a sense of humor. In order not to get confused when faced with the offender, think over a few phrases for him in advance. Having given your offender a "murderous" answer, you will feel like a winner and keep your good mood. For example, tell a rude saleswoman with a smile that you understand that she has problems with her husband, but you are not to blame for this, you just need a pack of butter.
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Unleash your emotions if you see that stopping the boor will not work in another way. In this case, find the strength in yourself to concentrate all your resentment, indignation and resentment, and throw out all this negativity to the offender, giving him the answer that he deserves. Support this “explosion” with a solid voice, a stern expression on his face, a contemptuous look, and even a few words from his vocabulary. After such an “attack” all the negative will come out of you, and you will calm down.
Useful advice
In any situation, behave with dignity and make sure that the offender is ashamed and unpleasant. Always find the strength for effective resistance, taking into account the situation and the characteristics of the people who offended you.