Psychologists identify several age-related crises throughout the life of each person. All of them mean a transition to a new stage in the life path and a different awareness of oneself and one's capabilities. In every age crisis, revaluation of previously significant values takes place. The most conscious and decisive occur in adolescence and adulthood.
Instruction manual
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Adolescence is a special period. It is called rebellious. At this time, the child is aware of his adulthood and understands that he has greater opportunities than before. The most important and decisive is the realization that the teenager is now able to make decisions. And these decisions may be different from the opinions of adults. The values that were imposed by parents and others are subjected to rigorous selection and rethinking. This is what leads to unbridled and uncontrolled behavior. Teenagers are trying to create their own value system, which sometimes becomes directly opposite to that adopted in society.
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The crisis of 30 years is a more meaningful and serious period in the formation of personality. At this time, there is an awareness of life and a change in ideas about it. This is a transition from youth to adulthood, from a time of dreams to an understanding of the ordinary and everyday life. Awareness of reality and correlation of their capabilities becomes the main acquisition of this age. There is a change in personality and assessment of achievements. Often young people realize that they lingered in childhood and reached very little by this age. The generally accepted values become important: family, close people, successful career, etc. The search for the true meaning of life begins.
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At the age of 40-45, a person achieves certain successes: in his career, in his family, a certain status in society. And at this moment, the desired is compared with what it came to as a result. Not always achieved results bring satisfaction. And in this case, some people decide to radically change their life paths. The first age-related sores prompt one to think about the transience of life. And then the selection of values. The most significant of them stand out. Forty-year-olds have studied this life quite well and have a clear idea of themselves and their capabilities. Values of the outside world go by the wayside, spiritual values begin to acquire paramount importance. At forty, there is something to tell the young generation.
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The age of 55-60 years brings another crisis. During this period, a global awareness of his whole life takes place. This is an attempt to mentally return to all the innermost corners of one’s past and learn from it. This is the time when a person gains wisdom and is ready to share it. At this age, the main values are: love, empathy, care, avoidance of suffering and pain.
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Crisis periods are dangerous in that a person is able to abandon what has been achieved, while injuring close people. During this period, it is important to understand that reassessment of values is work on oneself: one’s emotions, habits, behavior. The reason for our failures is the lack of our behavior and character. You can not blame the people around us, especially loved ones, for their mistakes. After all, the fact that they are next to us is already an achievement of our life.
Useful advice
The first signs of a crisis state are depressive thoughts, a feeling of loneliness and abandonment, a sense of the meaninglessness of being.
The first rule that helps to survive this condition is to stop resisting ongoing changes. Do not hold on to the old and try to just feel this moment, allow yourself to go with the flow for a while. This will provide an opportunity to see yourself and your own desires, and therefore, will tell you how to proceed.