Divorce is an unpleasant event in the life of a woman that must be managed to survive with the least loss. If all the signs of depression are present, urgent action is urgently needed.
You will need
- - subscription to the gym or pool;
- - music for meditation;
- - literature or video course on yoga;
- - consultation of a psychologist.
Instruction manual
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Try to soberly and impartially analyze the situation: whose fault was the result of a divorce? What did you win and what did you lose? If this is your fault, do not focus too much on this, just draw certain conclusions so as not to repeat the annoying mistakes again.
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Start living from scratch. You have drawn conclusions, gained life experience, and be philosophical about what happened. So many women experience situations similar to yours, and then find a new true love. Do not assume that everything is lost - for you, everything is just beginning!
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Do not get comfortable with the image of an abandoned woman, a victim. Do not let others feel sorry for you, try not to give them a reason for this. Position yourself as a free woman, not burdened by any problems.
4
Give up guilt. Remember that everyone has the right to make mistakes. Do not get carried away by samoyed, nothing will change from this anyway. If you are to blame for something, just accept it and try not to make the same mistakes in the future.
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Try to see the positive aspects in each situation. Remember all the negativity that connected you with your ex-husband, all his shortcomings. Have you ever had to clean his dirty socks? You vainly struggled with his habit of eating in front of the TV and suffered from his loud snoring at night? He was jealously jealous of you and limited your personal freedom? Now it's all over! Enjoy the fact that nobody controls you, nobody violates the order and cleanliness in your apartment, etc.
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Work on increasing self-esteem if you feel that you are unworthy of love, that you are not interested in men, ugly, etc. Find a hobby to your liking, broaden your horizons, visit the gym, pool, beauty salons, etc.
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Fill your everyday life with a variety of activities, work, communication. It is important to correctly alternate work and rest, otherwise you can get chronic fatigue syndrome. In your free time, attend massage sessions, engage in meditation and yoga.
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Control your own thoughts. Give up the habit of scrolling one and the same situation in your head a hundred times. It is important to understand: what was - then passed. Your past, whatever it may be, cannot be changed, but you can work on the present and the future.
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Strive for your worldview to be positive. Try not to lose faith in a bright future, hope that there is still a lot of good ahead of you, and you will certainly find your true love.
note
In no case do not try to drown out the experience of drinking alcohol or drugs. Remember, this is the road to nowhere. You will not solve the problem in this way, but only exacerbate your suffering.
Useful advice
Do not look for meetings with your ex-husband, do not cherish hopes for the restoration of relations, do not cling to the past, do not humiliate yourself. You should also not seek contact with his new family if the former spouse managed to create her. Prove to yourself and others that you are a self-sufficient person and do not need pity. If you feel that you cannot cope with depression on your own, consult an experienced psychologist.