An attempt to directly change the character of another person is a thankless task. Even if you are driven by good intentions, a negative response is guaranteed. And this is not surprising. It’s difficult to change at all, and I don’t even want to do it of my own free will. But what if the character of those with whom you have to communicate does not suit you?
Instruction manual
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Change yourself. Like it or not, you’ll have to start with yourself: since you don’t like something, then, in the end, this is your problem. If possible, change your attitude. Maybe you are just too critical or take the wrong measure. Go further - think about what in your worldview causes similar behavior of others. And try changing your character.
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Start with habits. No wonder they say: "Sow a habit - reap a character." Start small, move slowly and soon notice the first changes. It will be easier to work further, and the result will be more noticeable. Phased actions and their regularity, control and self-discipline do wonders.
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Praise yourself for the positive momentum. Even if it seems to you that everything is going too slowly. Take note of your accomplishments. Disbelief in one's strengths, despondency, excessive criticism and self-determination - all this can kill any undertaking.
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Change the approach. And yet, with regard to others, the same rules work here.
Gradual changes coming from small things, regular work and praise for a positive result.
The husband is inattentive and this is expressed, for example, in the fact that he arrives late from work? Tell him calmly and ask him not to do this again. When he arrives a little earlier than usual, thank him, tell me how it matters to you. Surely he will be pleased. And I want to repeat and strengthen positive emotions.
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Indicate the closest growth area. People are striving for development, this is normal. Let the person see the next step, let the step be not too big, and his need will not cause doubts. Then your ward will want to take this step.
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Do not try to change everything at once. The load must be dosed, but it is better to start with little things. Changing minor habits can lead to a change in character and even worldview.