There are relationships that are considered friendly, but at the same time, one partner experiences completely unfriendly feelings. How to behave in such a situation?
Sometimes you come across a situation in life when a guy and a girl are on friendly terms. They really do not cross the line of friendship, are very close emotionally, share their innermost secrets and relate to each other very reverently and respectfully.
Only a little later it turns out that one of them is simply in love. It can be either a guy or a girl. And at this stage, the relationship takes on a completely different shade. The party in love cannot admit to the other person their feelings, they are afraid of them. Sometimes such feelings are hidden, because a friend is in an official love relationship. Or the party in love appreciates this exalted friendship so much that it is simply afraid to spoil everything with recognition, because after it everything will be different.
It must be said right away that in our situation there are several substitutions. Such relationships are inherently amorous, despite their platonic nature. They have all the signs of a love relationship: a strong emotional attachment of a lover, jealousy, constant thoughts about the object of love. Also in such relationships, there is often a hidden sexual connotation.
And the object of love itself feels that it is being given special attention and prefers not to notice it. He does not recognize the love nature of the relationship and calls it friendship for several reasons. First, he receives emotions and feelings of adoration and love from another person. This in itself charges, gives energy, because it is nice when you are idolized. And, secondly, hiding behind the words of friendship, our object of adoration has every right not to be responsible for these manifestations.
If a person has a love relationship, he should at least take care of a partner. And if the love relationship, like, like not, then he does not owe anything to anyone. A little consumer position, but very comfortable.
This happens most often. One in such relationships gives more emotional warmth, care, attention, and the other takes.
And the final touch to sketching our friendships is that the lover secretly (including myself) hopes that someday the relationship will really move from friendship to love.
How to be in this situation?
If you find yourself in a situation of love relationships that are considered friendly:
1. Realize the true alignment of roles in the relationship. If you are reading this text, then most likely you already understand who is who.
2. Understand all the pros and cons of this situation for yourself and for a friend (or girlfriend). What do you and the other side get? And most importantly, what do you both get less in this relationship?
3. Decide for yourself whether you want to change this relationship. Everyone receives his own from such relationships, but also loses a lot. For example, the party in love is deprived of the opportunity to openly love and take care of a loved one.
4. If you decide to open the cards, be prepared for a sincere conversation and tell us about your feelings. After this conversation, your relationship will never be the same. They can become love affairs, they can become really friendly (this also happens after a sincere conversation). Relationships can also end, because it can be very difficult for a person in love to hide their feelings, pretend or not realize their desire to build close relationships.