The ancient Quae nocent docent, translated from Latin meaning "things that hurt, they teach, " is applicable to the description of humiliation. Indeed, quite often after the “lessons of fate” people become stronger, gaining life experience and wisdom.
Words and actions aimed at making a person feel inferior, as well as experiencing fear and insecurity, are called derogatory. Humiliation, according to psychologists, can be a serious blow to a person’s personality, as this affects his own dignity. It happens that a person is humiliated and in order to deprive him of the respect of others. And sometimes, while humiliating, they are trying in this way to increase their self-esteem - this indicates that the tyrant himself has been wronged and humiliated more than once in the past, and now he is not able to achieve confidence in another way, gaining it only when he mocks others.
Humiliation: fear and pain
In circumstances degrading human dignity, it can turn out to be almost anything: when faced with hooligans on the street, during conflicts in the family or at work, and with many other options. Both words and actions can humiliate. If for one person who is confident in themselves, they will not leave a trace, then they can mentally crush and break another. Verbal humiliation, as a rule, is built on the insolvency of a person in a particular area. For men, for example, hints that he is not able to provide for his family or is a “rag” can be humiliating, and for women, doubts about their attractiveness or ability to be a good housewife and mother.
Humiliation is especially acute in adolescence, when the emotional background is still unstable, and a little life experience and a desire to assert oneself often do not give an adequate assessment of what is happening. When children are humiliated (unfortunately, many parents sin this), the consequences can be very remote and adverse. In the first years of life, when the child only forms the basic principles of perception of the world around him, he risks not only getting a neurosis, but getting the wrong idea about his own strengths and capabilities. Humiliation can not only lead to neurosis, but also disrupt the child’s ability to adequately assess themselves and their actions, developing self-esteem and forming self-esteem. Subsequently, children who experienced humiliation in the family in the early years can repeat this model of behavior, "recouping" on their relatives and descendants.
Many people who have experienced serious humiliation, or who have experienced it for a long time, may experience serious problems. Often they at an unconscious level try in any way to avoid a similar occurrence in the future, starting to avoid communication and becoming asocial. They are safe and often do not understand themselves what they expect from others to be humiliated. In such cases, the person also runs the risk of becoming embittered and cruel, compensating for his fears by humiliating others.