Surely you noticed that in your life the same unpleasant situations are repeated from time to time. Either you find yourself betrayed by a friend, for some reason you owe everything to you, then relatives and friends load you with requests that you cannot refuse, and after that you take off and reproach yourself, but continue to behave without failure … As a rule, life is the basis for such cases a personality scenario that "makes" us behave in a similar way over and over again and face frustration, guilt, and even burnout.
Why do I need a life scenario of a person
The life scenario gives us a hint how to act in a difficult life situation, gives us the behavior program that we learned from childhood and know it like the back of our hand. The scripted action program is turned on automatically, it works without failures. Compared to other forms of behavior, the script and the programs dictated by it have a number of advantages:
- He is simple.
- He is familiar.
- He is familiar and therefore well trained.
In other words, for the psyche to use the life scenario as a ready-made program of behavior is very economical and, as a result, convenient.
Why you need to get rid of the life scenario
Despite all the advantages of scripting programs, we are forced to state that the life scenario does not help solve problems. He points to a convenient, but by no means constructive solution to the prevailing difficulties. The principle of the script is based on the desire to avoid negative emotional states, to protect our psyche from traumatic experiences.
Running away from negative emotions, we do not solve the problem, our personality does not develop and does not become more adaptive.