For a woman to find out that her husband is unfaithful to her is a severe shock. It does not matter whether she herself convicted her husband of treason or well-wishers opened her eyes. Resentment, anger, confusion - all this literally overwhelms her. Some women feel so offended, humiliated that they immediately file for divorce. Others, on the contrary, can fall into a prolonged depression, lose all interest in life. How to behave in such a sad situation, how to live after the betrayal of her husband?
Instruction manual
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You have learned that your spouse is unfaithful to you. Your feelings are clear and natural. However, you absolutely must calm down and think carefully. Therefore, first you can (and even need to relieve nervous tension) throw out emotions. Then still try to pull yourself together.
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Frankly answer yourself the question: are you ready to forgive treason for the sake of saving your family? Take your time and do not get excited, try to be as honest as possible. Weigh the pros and cons. Decisively reject arguments such as: "It’s better to have at least some husband than not, " or "Yes, who else will I need, with the children!" But arguments like: “Children need a father, but he loves them so much, cares!” On the contrary, they deserve serious attention.
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If the insult is so strong that you cannot forgive your spouse, try to file a divorce with decent calm, without mutual reproaches and scandals, as befits civilized people. If you have children, in no case do not turn them into a weapon of revenge, do not turn against your ex-husband, do not interfere with his meetings with them. This rule can only be violated if the former spouse leads an asocial lifestyle and adversely affects children.
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Do not cross yourself after a divorce. The times when a divorced woman was considered almost inferior, and amicably condemned for not being able to save the family, a long time ago. Do not blame yourself, even if in the incident there is your share of guilt. What happened - something happened. Do not spare yourself and do not let others feel sorry for you.
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If you are ready to forgive your husband, speak frankly with him. Do not reproach, do not resort to tears. Just calmly say: "I know everything. Please explain why this happened." And carefully, without interrupting, listen to him. After all, once you were the most beautiful, beloved and desired for your spouse. He chose you from among many women. Try to figure out what was the reason for his betrayal, and do everything to again become the most charming for her husband.