When a person sees problems with a friend, relative, close person, of course, he wants to somehow help him out of a difficult situation. But it can be very difficult to direct the thoughts of another person in the right direction, to convince, to give the right advice.
Instruction manual
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Making a decision yourself is sometimes quite difficult. The problem and its solutions are spinning in my head, and now there are doubts about what to choose in order not to encounter further failure. At this moment, many turn to another person to solve the problem - a friend, relative, in the hope that he can look at the problem remotely, from a different angle. If you are this friend, remember a few tricks with which you can help a person in a problem and not harm him at the same time.
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Discuss the situation together. Saying a problem and its solutions in some situations helps to resolve the issue, so maybe at this stage you can help a person find the most correct option. Otherwise, your unbiased and detached opinion will be able to set a guideline for your friend's thoughts.
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Deeply understand the problem, together with a friend, think over the pros and cons. One of the main mistakes in making decisions will be superficial attention to a problematic issue. When a person looks only at a part of a question, he does not think about the other side of the situation. Such a superficial grasping of unresolved moments can play a cruel joke with him, then the decision is often incorrect. Always understand someone else's problem to the end, because you now have the responsibility for advice in someone else's difficult situation.
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Think about the interests of man, not about yours. Often such advice is required too caring parents, husbands, wives or best friends. In making decisions, they no longer think about the desires of a person, but about their interest in his problem or the interest of the whole family. So it turns out that such help actually forces a person to solve someone else's problems besides his own. If you have been asked to understand and come to the right conclusions, do not mix your own interests in solving the problem, take the side of the person and sincerely help him.
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Do not impose your point of view. In other people's troubles, people know exactly what to do, give advice with pleasure and feel offended if they do not take their advice. Any of your help in solving the problem will be necessary for a person, but you do not need to insist that you are right. It may happen that your opinion will convince a person of the correctness of precisely his position, not yours. And this will also be a huge help for him, because thanks to you he found his solution.
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Do not shift the responsibility for solving someone else's problem to yourself. If you persuade your friend or relative too hard, perhaps afterwards he will blame you for the wrong decision. Let him put an end to his problem himself, then the responsibility for the conclusions made will fall on him. Let the person make the final decision and respect his opinion.
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Give time, do not rush a person to find the right path as quickly as possible. Complex issues need to be considered for as long as there is no firm confidence in the decision. Therefore, do not push your friend and do not put pressure on him.