Heartache can break even a very persistent person. She always comes hand in hand with great misfortune. Antibiotics and painkillers will not help from it. Mental pain can turn a healthy person into a "vegetable". Is it possible to overcome a heartache?
You will need
- - Believe in yourself;
- - help of relatives and friends;
- - the desire to live.
Instruction manual
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If someone from your family suddenly died or a loved one betrayed you, then it seems that life is over. You are overwhelmed with severe mental pain. Some try to drown it out with alcohol or tranquilizers, but this is fundamentally the wrong approach. Only another powerful feeling can cope with a powerful emotional experience.
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There are many cases when, having survived the pain of loss, a person is as if born again. Having lost a child, a woman begins to actively engage in charity work. She gives her unspent warmth to orphans and the disabled. And gradually, from a pale, heartbroken shadow, she turns into a strong person, inspired by the idea of mercy.
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If misfortune befell you, do not be alone. There are many public organizations where you will always be supported by people who themselves have experienced the same misfortune. Notice, support, not regret.
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Avoid people who will pity you. Pity will not help get rid of heartache. It does not provide an incentive to change the situation, but constructive support will serve as a springboard for overcoming the crisis.
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Do not stay idle for a minute. People often say in condemnation: "Nine days have passed since the death of her husband, and she is already working, as if nothing had happened." And, by the way, this is a very effective mechanism for protecting the psyche from the consequences of grief. A person finds solace in activity, distracting from sad thoughts, at least for a short time.
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But the most important thing that will help you overcome your heartache is faith. Believe in what you want to believe. Believe in what helps you survive. If you are a Christian, believe that your loved one is in a better world, that his soul will live forever, and someday you will definitely meet. If you are a Buddhist, then believe that the soul of your loved one will return to earth in your unborn child.
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Do not lose faith for a minute, and one day, waking up in the morning, you will see how the sun shines brightly and how beautiful this world is.
Useful advice
Prohibit yourself from blaming yourself for what happened. The words “this is heavenly punishment for me”, “there is no happiness in life”, “it’s not fate for me to live well” do not pronounce. If you are unable to change these settings for others, it is better to completely free your mind from thoughts. But, in no case do not allow yourself to think in this way, otherwise even experts will not be able to help you.