How I want to protect the child from all the troubles and worries of this world! I want him to live a happy and cloudless life. In order for the baby to meet steadily all the hardships of life, it is necessary to let him explore this world on his own. The parent function in it is only supportive and helping.
The baby is not the property of the parent. The function of the latter is to grow, educate and let go. Parents often break their child’s life because of their selfish impulses. Paradoxically, it is especially “good” for mothers. There are several basic types of complex moms:
- forever sick and unhappy;
- overwhelming;
- anxious and hyper-custody;
- degrading and selfish.
Often there is a confusion of certain traits of each type in the nature of the mother. This is due to the fact that the woman did not work out certain psychological problems, and subconsciously moves them to the child.
To raise a child as an independent person, you need:
- provide him with a certain degree of freedom in the knowledge of himself and the world;
- teach independence;
- to support and encourage in difficult life moments;
- communicate like with an adult.
Also, the baby should not be forced to force something, for example, food, certain creative activities, etc. The child, in certain aspects, needs to be trained based on his character and needs, and not forced, based on his own concepts of "usefulness" for him.
Usually, strong and independent personalities grow out of children who were given a certain degree of freedom by their parents at a young age.