In the modern world, we often get pictures of the ideal person in books, movies, music. Often, even raising our own child, we subconsciously impose a goal on him: to become an ideal person. In this regard, one of the most popular inquiries to the therapist sounds like "I can't imagine anything."
It is self-esteem that affects our actions, guides the choice of work, partner, friends. The success of a person depends on self-esteem. Often, low self-esteem is a way of protection, helps not to go beyond the comfort zone.
There are a number of techniques that anyone can use to independently increase their own self-esteem. Let's talk about the most popular.
1. Look for a reason to praise and thank you. Think about your good deeds, smart words, right decisions. Celebrate your merits every day. Even if not large-scale. Cleaning an apartment, having a lesson with a child or walking with a dog, mastering a new dessert - all this is an occasion to praise yourself a little. Say to yourself: "I am a good person", "there are a lot of merit in me, " "I am worthy of respect."
If such statements seem biased, ask loved ones to voice your main virtues and remind yourself of them every day. It may be easier for you to praise yourself if you see firsthand that there is much to be proud of. Record all the good that you have done during the day. Have your grandmother transferred across the road? Fed street animals? Write it down!
2. It is important to realize that there are no ideal people in the world. And you, unfortunately, are no exception. Forgive yourself for that. And start working on yourself. Write down your main weaknesses, consider ways to deal with them, and get started. Defeating your own weaknesses, you will feel better.
3. Find something to your liking that will distract you from negative thoughts. Remember your childhood hobbies, you may want to return to them. If a person brings pleasure to what he does, then he has found himself. It will bring you great self-satisfaction. Do not be afraid to try, do not be afraid to make mistakes. In another mistake you can find the truth.
4. A prerequisite for effective self-help is awareness of the root of the problem. Self-reliance is not an innate assessment of oneself. Self-relationship develops in the process of education and socialization. You can convince yourself that you are the most beautiful for years, but perhaps this is what gnaws at you? If you feel powerless, seek the help of a therapist.