There are many reasons for self-doubt, mainly from childhood. This can lead to both hyper-custody on the part of parents and rejection. Psychologists have several recommendations on how to get out of a state of uncertainty.
Recognize your uniqueness and stop comparing yourself to others. Such comparisons only exacerbate uncertainty: one has excellent communication skills, the other has unlimited money, the third always keeps it relaxed. Comparing yourself with others, you accumulate so many “competitors” that you fall into final despair. Because it’s impossible to surpass everyone in all respects. Pay attention to your strengths and talents and focus on them. You also have something that others can envy. So develop it and feel free to show!
Give up the habit of self-flagellation. So many people consider self-criticism to be the best motivation. But a constant negative attitude towards oneself does not help. Criticism is sometimes really useful, but without self-derogatory remarks. If you make a mistake, better think about how it can be corrected most effectively. And it’s better to motivate yourself to action, focusing on your merits. For example, remember how well you did the last time.
Stop agreeing with everything, and then suffer - you have to do what you agreed to do. Out of healthy egoism, give up things you don’t want to do.
Accept praise with dignity without responding to phrases denying your importance. In many cultures, courtesy rules recommend that you respond with a compliment in the spirit of "you are too kind" or "oh well, I haven’t done anything special." With these phrases you belittle your achievements and achievements, unconsciously "lowering" yourself into place. The interlocutor will also regard this message in this way. Say thank you, feel free. After all, there really is something in you that deserves gratitude and admiration.
Quite a banal recommendation, but auto-training has not harmed anyone yet. If you repeat the different phrases that encourage you every day, they will really take root in your mind. The benefits of auto-suggestion have been proven for a long time. And along with other ways to increase confidence, it will definitely give a good result. You can repeat your own or finished phrases. For example: "I am a confident person, " "I deserve the best." Repeat these phrases in moments of doubt. And to find more meritorious merit, make a list of achievements.
Do not dwell on theoretical considerations. Take action! Accept challenges from the outside world. So you can arouse respect for yourself and others.
Surround yourself with open and positive people who would sincerely tell you about your strengths and weaknesses. Avoid individuals who like to judge and criticize others. They will overwhelm you. In turn, start to become more interested in people. Help them, cheer and they will answer you with gratitude. And gratitude will cause you to feel your own worth and enhance your mood. You will understand that you can help someone become happier.
Learn to listen to your inner voice, no matter what crazy things he says. A lot of people do things under the pressure of any authorities and society. They enter the wrong faculty, marry the wrong woman. As a result, a feeling of dissatisfaction remains, a person does not feel "in his place." There will be no self-esteem and understanding of the meaning of one’s own life. So, stop doing what others want and start your own life.