So, without a romantic introduction - a guy left you. Tough, real. Your far-reaching plans are ruined, your bright prospects faded, your intentions are chaotic. But you cannot help but act!
You will need
Ghost in white, a beggar of love, Mexican passions, serious decisions
Instruction manual
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Ghost in white
The guy threw you, and you create terrible pictures in your imagination. “Let me commit suicide - let it be tormented” - this is what many people think, especially adolescents, who experience all life disasters much more acutely than adult girls. Such an intention is always based on a sense of revenge and an attempt to force everyone to pay attention to what you exist and to your pain, which is unbearable! However, instead of feverishly inventing ways to effectively leave your life that will suit you as well as possible - let's look at it from the outside. Imagine what will happen after you, young and wonderful, are gone. He, young and certainly beautiful, will be shocked. Perhaps even regret the deed. Of course he will remember you all his life! You will be something like a ghost in white for everyone. But time will pass, and he will have another girl. Perhaps they will marry, and she will give birth to his children. And your fatal and sad image, alas, will prettyly fade and be forgotten among the diapers, trousers, work, daily fuss and new love. Friends will remember you with sadness, especially by slamming a glass or two, sharing opinions about your tragic and ridiculous life, and regret it. Notice, people love tragic stories with a sad outcome. Why? Never mind. After all, it is their children who will play in the sandbox and collect seashells on the seashore. Not yours. Well, the most unpleasant: death, especially this one, is disgusting. She will not make you more beautiful, but rather, disfigure. And he will never return to you what you want to return at all costs - to be near him. Do you need it?
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Love beggar
Suicide is canceled. You decide to get a meeting and talk. You beg to give you one last chance. You are trying to blackmail him, crushing on his conscience and shifting responsibility for his own future onto his shoulders. You can even quote the famous aphorism from The Little Prince by Antoine Saint-Exupery: they say that we are responsible for those we tame. You promise that you will fulfill all his desires, never be jealous, do not argue with him, endure his antics. You beat to pity, shed a sea of tears, swear to become a resigned tender rug at his door. In general, such tactics sometimes work. Compassion stirs within him
growing male conceit. After doomed sighs and hesitations, he generously agrees to "try to start all over again." And your role now is to patiently and humblely deserve love, to beg for his precious attention and to behave quieter than water, below the grass. Of course, until it bothers him or you. In the end, he will leave you. This time, completely and irrevocably. You can, of course, try to insure yourself against this - for example, give birth to a child. Perhaps you will marry him - and where did he, my dear, disappear? But all your life to feel unloved, not to feel unique, desired, to reconcile in advance that you will be unhappy - agree, an unenviable prospect. Do you need it?
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Mexican passions
Of course not! The role of a beggar is clearly not suitable for you. You will act boldly, boldly and even brazenly. You will bring your appearance into a state of a hunter for men, dress stylishly, infiltrate his circle of acquaintances and spin a romance. For example, with his best friend. To spite the ex-boyfriend. Provoked jealousy sometimes works wonders. This path is especially effective if he has a girlfriend, and they are together in the same place as you. You will intersect quite often, you will portray his friend’s lucky companion, gracefully but sensitive hairpins to bring your rival to white heat, emphasizing your superiority and its terrible flaws, your trendy style and her tasteless outfit, your wit and her impenetrable stupidity. Finally, he will see how cruelly mistaken he has been exchanging you for this mediocre, gray mouse creature! And you will take revenge, consistently, sweetly, with demonic pleasure, making it clear that there is no turning back and the train has gone, but with all its appearance it represents a sexual challenge and cruel mockery. You will torture him sophisticatedly, humiliating his girlfriend and thereby humiliating him. It is possible that the insidious plan will work, and the guy will lose ground under the undeniable avalanche of your provocations. As a result, everyone quarrels: your ex is with a girl, his friend is with him, and maybe with you. Perhaps you will achieve yours and return your chosen one among these ruins of the former relationships of several people. If you are a fan of Mexican television series, then you can try. True, having got you like a war trophy, your boyfriend may lose interest in you. This usually happens with men who like "Mexican passions." Do you need it?
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But seriously?
What to do if a guy abandoned you? First, do not despair. There are two options: either it’s a quarrel from the category of “darlings scolding - just amuse”, and the situation takes time to calm down emotions, either - he does not love you, or you just do not fit each other.
There are no “right” recipes here. But “as it should not” is a separate discussion about this.
The first one. Do not call him every ten minutes, do not bombard him with tragic sms messages. Give him time to sort out his feelings.
The second one. Put aside your grievances and analyze what happened. Take a sheet and write it in two columns: first, what does not suit you in it, and then - which, in your opinion, annoys it in you. So it will be easier to compose a more or less objective picture in the head and understand what led to the break.
The third. Take care of yourself. Bring yourself in perfect order both externally and internally. Move away from an unpleasant situation for a while and try to find in your life what is interesting to you, in addition to relations with this person. Do you like photography? Do you ink or write poetry? Do you have a blog? Do you like kayaking? Remember your hobbies. Try to find support outside your personal relationship with him. The more independent the woman, the greater interest in her is experienced by the opposite sex.
Fourth. Try to calm down, talk to him. But do not pour tears. Men are afraid of women's tears and are ready to escape to the ends of the world from difficult scenes. And if he does not love you, tears will not help. Do not ask for anything, do not humiliate yourself. Having humbled once - give an occasion to humiliate yourself in the future. Try to talk calmly and honestly. And if you are convinced that he does not love you, you should not arrange a scene, liken yourself to furies with curses on their lips. Men hate tantrums! Smile And no matter how hard it is, say something neutral: "I made a mistake in you. Sorry.
.“Or something like that. Men with such a cold restraint hurt a lot more than a primitive insult. But you can give free rein to tears even after no one sees you.”
Fifth and last. Try to understand that alliances between a man and a woman are not random. And the experience that we gain by communicating, loving each other, and sometimes burning ourselves, makes us smarter and stronger. If after such a conversation he does not look for you, does not call you, move away from him. Try changing your environment to survive the pain. Over time, it will cease to be excruciating. You will maintain your dignity - and this is a lot. In addition, you will become free!
Look around. Be bright and natural. Men are paying attention to you, and among them, for sure, there is someone who will appreciate your soul and external attractiveness in you. The one with whom you together can build a happy future. Unless, of course, you take into account the negative experience and your mistakes. Psychologists say that falling in love again is much easier when the heart has not cooled off from previous love. Then it’s much harder to do it. Just do not forget that the main thing in love is to give and give, respect each other’s personal space, and not try to take, get and possess, trying to redraw a person for the sake of your own comfort.