People who know how to easily attract others and lead, always cause our admiration. It has long been known that not everyone is given a leader to be born. Therefore, when it comes to a person who can influence others, inspire respect and delight, we always say the same thing: this is natural charisma, a person was just lucky to be born with such qualities. But is it really so? Is it possible to purposefully develop charisma in oneself?
Instruction manual
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Psychologists and corporate trainers argue that charisma is by no means a gift from the gods, as the ancient Greeks thought, but a set of well-defined personal qualities. Of course, we must take into account that psychologically and physically people are not equal. Not everyone from birth is given expressed leadership qualities or the ability to influence others with their charm. However, constant hard work on your personality allows you to achieve good results and develop to the maximum even the most modest natural data.
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In order to develop charisma, you must first clearly understand what it is. What is the basis of a person’s ability to lead and manage the masses. Paradoxically, the charisma of a person always rests on three main “pillars”: self-confidence, great self-esteem and the ability to take initiative.
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As psychologists note, charisma is first of all self-confidence. Confidence in one's own self-worth and the ability to achieve goals. In practice, many people live their lives without gaining full confidence in their abilities. Of course, a different position is usually declared out loud, but within themselves, it is human nature to doubt. In order to develop self-confidence, it is necessary to work purposefully on this. Each goal achieved strengthens our confidence, each failure throws back to weakness. Make it a rule daily to set small practical goals and achieve them. It is especially important to record the result. You can start a special diary or diary in which to record all your victories. Suppose that at first they will be very small, it does not matter. The main thing is that the goal was set, formulated and achieved. For global, at first glance difficult to achieve goals, one trick can be applied: to divide the process of achieving the goal into a series of stages, each of which will be crowned with a specific intermediate goal and consecutively overcome them.
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Self-esteem is the second necessary component of a truly charismatic personality. Before you expect love and respect from others, you need to learn to like and respect yourself. Low self-esteem often makes one think that a person seems to have no virtues and positive qualities. But this is completely wrong - everyone has advantages, it is only important to see them and begin to develop. In order to strengthen their self-esteem, it is necessary to strive to perform only those acts that do not contradict the personal value system. The ethics of individual behavior provides a solid foundation for self-esteem.
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To be a charismatic person means to be a leader, that is, not to be afraid to take the initiative and take responsibility for your actions. Often we do not dare to commit an act or express our opinion out of fear of making a mistake and being criticized. It is not right. There are no perfect, infallible people in the world. Everyone has the right to make a mistake, so one should not be afraid to seem to someone wrong or wrong. Only you are responsible for your decisions and you better know why you acted in one way or another. As you know, only one who does nothing is not mistaken. But you want to be a leader, therefore, you must learn to act.