"Marriage is the art of compromise." These words must have been heard at least once in the life of a man and woman. It is much more difficult to understand what is behind them, and how the aforementioned compromise must be reached. It seems to the spouse that in a particular situation it is necessary to act only this way, and not otherwise. A woman has exactly the opposite opinion on this. Nobody wants to give in. Word for word, and now a full-blown scandal with a transition to personality is already burning. How to come to this very compromise?
Instruction manual
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First of all, understand and remember that there are no ideal people in the world! Every person has flaws. If you love him, you will look at them condescendingly (to a certain point, of course!)
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Make it clear once and for all: the other person is convinced of their rightness by arguments, and not by physical force or hysterical tears. If the husband uses his fists to force you to do what he thinks is right, he demonstrates his stupidity. But the wife, rolling up a hysteria, to make her husband do what seems right to her, looks, say delicately, far from in the best light.
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From the very beginning, clearly agree that the decisive vote on a particular issue belongs to the member of the family who understands it better! If the husband is a pronounced "techie", then the wife should hardly meddle with her opinion (and even more so, impose it) on the repair, purchase of household appliances, etc. Similarly, if the husband’s culinary limit is fried eggs, he should not tell his wife what foods to buy, what dishes to cook, what spices to use.
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When discussing complex, contentious issues, try to exercise maximum restraint and composure. The emotions here are bad helpers. It is much better if you first discuss all the "pros" of a particular option, and then the "cons" and evaluate what is more.
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Both husband and wife should learn to concede in trifles. This, firstly, will create a favorable psychological climate in the family, and secondly, it will help to stand your ground when it comes to a really fundamental issue, such as "I conceded to you this and that; now you can listen to my wish."
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Remember that the main thing is to maintain love and mutual respect. This will save you from mistakes and help you find a mutually acceptable compromise.