Each person at least once felt a sense of dissatisfaction with his own life. “I can’t do anything, ” “What a fate I have” - popular phrases uttered in despair. Meanwhile, psychologists and psychotherapists warn: be careful in your phrases and voiced desires. Studies show that every word spoken by a person consciously or in a momentary impulse is directly related to subsequent events in his life. This is where the science of NLP came from - neuro-linguistic programming.
Correctly built verbal and non-verbal signals can improve the quality of life and improve your relationships with people - say the creators of NLP Richard Bandler, John Grinder and Frank Pucelik in their books: “The Magic of Neurolinguistic Programming without Secrets, ” “Persuasion Technology” and others. Russian Authors Andrei Pligin and Alexander Gerasimov echo them, releasing the NLP Practitioner manual for beginners.
Have you ever wondered how two phrases, identical in meaning but different in sound, can affect the understanding of another person? For example, the phrase: "Would you like some tea?" because of the particle, “not” is automatically perceived as your favor, helpfulness expressed without much desire. "Maybe some tea?" - It’s better already, but the interlocutor can again hear doubt about the blurry “maybe”.
To understand, speak more specifically, avoiding unnecessary particles and prefixes: "Do you want tea?", "Will you go for a walk?", "Are you free tonight?" etc. The same goes for oneself. In phrases like: “I can’t do it”, “Should I get a promotion in the end or not ?!” you are giving an energetic message that you are subconsciously not ready for success.
Control your phrases wherever you are: at work or at home. Many women are surprised: why did the husband cool down to them? The answer is simple: the attitude of a man depends on what program you set. The constant repetition of the offended phrase: “You do not love me” or “I am fat” in the end gives its negative results - the man begins to believe in what has been said and ceases to love.
Dreams come true only if you sound them correctly, for example, instead of the phrase: “Why am I not getting promoted, because I work like a bee ?!” you need to say: "I am the best economist at my enterprise and I will be promoted, " "A trip to Egypt will refresh my impressions, " etc. Thus, you program future events in a positive way.
Support verbal mood with non-verbal gestures: be open to the world and friendly to people. Do not dwell on your own success: the more you ask for others, the more you will fall (the principle of "boomerang of goodness").