Now dating sites are growing like mushrooms after rain, becoming more popular year by year, and more and more young people prefer to get acquainted on the Internet. What are the pros and cons of this trend?
The pluses of this trend include the fact that dating has become more accessible. Without meeting in real life, you can find suitable candidates and talk, getting to know each person better. This is an absolute plus for a city dweller, who, as a rule, has a shortage of time for dating.
To this we can add that every year the number of couples who met via the Internet is growing.
Surely among your friends there are similar examples.
But here are also the big disadvantages:
1. In communication over the Internet a lot of information is lost in comparison with real communication.
Gestures, facial expressions, gaze, intonation, voice and other non-verbal manifestations of a person carry a lot of information. Often, based on these manifestations, basic psychological compatibility is determined. When communicating, you can really feel whether you are comfortable with a person or if there is something annoying. These factors can be decisive when living together.
2. Most of the courtship period is virtual.
Courtship is an important stage in building relationships. If it is crumpled, then the partners cannot recognize each other's manifestations in many situations, for example, does the partner know how to take care, to sacrifice something for the other. It is also important to look from the side how your partner interacts with other people, how he manifests himself, because how a person behaves with other people, so he can behave with you.
3. People mostly communicate with a fictitious way, and not with a real person.
Since communication is based on a scanty amount of information, we ourselves begin to come up with so many things, ascribe them to a partner and believe that he has some qualities that are actually not there. You can also create the illusion that there is some kind of positive quality, for example, kindness or integrity. In real communication, it would immediately become clear that this is an illusion, and in online relationships, such an illusion can be maintained for a very long time.
4. Communication over the Internet is time consuming.
Virtual communication takes a lot of time, while a real meeting in many cases immediately puts everything in its place. While we are building virtual images, waiting and losing time, the very first meeting often gives an answer to the question, is it my person or not.
So, we conclude that communication through the Internet can develop into strong feelings only if it is followed quickly enough by communication in reality.