It is becoming more common for people to trust their problems not to a friend, but to a professional - a psychologist. Many gradually come to the realization that to solve internal problems you need to attract a person who has knowledge of the psyche. However, some people still have difficulty when they think: how to ask a question to a psychologist.
Instruction manual
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First, decide for yourself whether you will communicate with a psychologist in person or ask a question as part of an online consultation, or in a letter to a newspaper or magazine. Of course, personal appeal will be most effective for solving the problem, although it is more difficult to gain courage and prepare questions for the specialist.
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If you are going to work with a psychologist personally, then think about what you want to get from communicating with a psychologist. This question can be formulated directly in the psychologist’s office, with its help. A good specialist can ask competent leading questions that will help you better understand the essence of your problem. In addition, an experienced psychologist usually knows which particular causes often cause these or other problems, and knows which solutions are suitable for a particular psychological type of people. In a personal meeting, he can always ask additional questions, so if possible, choose the option of a personal meeting.
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What most good psychologists do not work with is asking to change others. A specialist can suggest ways of exposure, but, first of all, he will work with your attitudes and expectations. Therefore, if you want the behavior of loved ones to change, do not ask the psychologist: “Why is everyone so unfair to me?”, Ask a different question: “How can I change my thinking and behavior so that the behavior of my loved ones changes?”.
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If you write a letter to a psychologist in a newspaper, magazine or on a website on the Internet, carefully read what data a particular specialist usually needs for analysis. Often a good psychologist asks to pass a certain test in advance and provide the results together with the actual question. With the results of the test and your main question, state all the data that you think is significant in essence of the problem. Write specifically and in detail, it is better if the letter is more than one typewritten page. If you ask a question that is too general, you will get a very general answer, from which it will be difficult to extract anything useful to you.