Unfortunately, parting in our lives is inevitable. Sometimes they pass almost painlessly, but at times you have to let go of your beloved people, life without which it’s not nice. Only time will help to forget the former beloved, but in this he can significantly speed up this process. Remember that everything is in your hands, because it depends on you whether you fall into a long depression or try to get out of the crisis yourself. Friends, relatives and even professional psychological help will not be able to help you if you yourself do not want to.
You will need
You will need to collect all your will into a fist.
Instruction manual
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First, you need to remove all items that remind you of a former lover. No matter how painful it is, you will have to destroy all common photos and gifts, change the phone number and clean the notebook.
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Try not to visit places that evoke memories of the past.
Think less about a failed relationship. Each time, suppress thoughts of a former lover. Get distracted by thinking about nice and interesting things.
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Do not lock yourself. Make a daily schedule by writing every minute. So you will have less time for memories and experiences. Sign up for a gym or language courses, take more time to work. If you have a free minute, then read a book or watch a movie. Remember that melodramas and tearful romances to a broken heart are not helpers. Therefore, it is better to choose a fantasy or adventure genre.
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Do not be left alone. Talk heart to heart with your best friend, spend time with family or friends. Sign up for a training and meet people who are in a similar situation. Someone else's pain will help for a while to forget about their own.
If you are an introvert by nature, then you can devote your thoughts and experiences to paper. Start a diary or start writing poetry. Thematic forums will be of great help. There you can find support.
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If all of the above does not help, try to identify the failure of your feelings. Take a pen and 2 sheets of paper. On one of them write down the most vivid memories of the relationship, then all your feelings and grievances that arose after the breakup. Tear it into small pieces. On the second sheet, indicate what you achieved after the break. Every day, try to write a new item on the list.
note
In no case do not take antidepressants or sleeping pills. If you can’t sleep for a long time, drink soothing tea or take a relaxing bath.
Useful advice
Do not limit your communication. It is possible that there is already a person near you who will make you truly happy.