Unfortunately, sad events happen in life. When someone is in trouble or someone is in deep sorrow from an unbearable loss, I want to express sympathy, to help a person not to break, to support him in difficult times. But not everyone knows and knows what words to choose to express their feelings, whether it will be appropriate, etc.
You will need
Phone, internet, pen, paper
Instruction manual
one
Express your sympathy sincerely. A person will have to go through suffering, give him sincere attention. Express your willingness to help him. As a rule, laconic speech from the heart is much more effective than duty phrases. Such words soothe and heal.
2
Express empathy in person at your earliest convenience. If you are unable to do this, write a letter. You do not need to choose a special moment or day for this. Write from the heart, without unnecessary phrases and emotions. Express your willingness to help, support your loved one.
3
Be sure to ask for permission to call or meet. So you will help a person get rid of the feeling that nothing else depends on him. You will help him regain faith in himself and in his significance, give him confidence. In this case, it is better to use such questions: "can I call you tomorrow?" or "may I drive up to you the other day?".
4
Do not lose touch with a person in need of sympathy, even if he does not want to see anyone. When a person is depressed and prefers to cope with his situation on his own, this does not mean that he does not need help. Be sure to find a reason to contact him. Use an answering machine, messages, write a letter, resort to the help of neighbors. Just do not leave the person alone with yourself in this difficult situation. However, remember that excessive and too annoying attention is also inappropriate. Be unobtrusive and considerate.
5
Shift the person’s attention to positive communication with the event. In a conversation, emphasize the bright moments of the past. Speaking about the future, try to maintain a person’s self-confidence. Fix those moments when a person calms down. Focus his attention on them more often. Try to persuade him to go somewhere together. This will help to distract from unpleasant thoughts.