There is an opinion that scandal is bad. But such an installation is not entirely true. Its roots go back to childhood when parents forbade quarreling and saying bad words. According to psychologists, scandal is possible and necessary. After all, the main goal of the scandal is to clarify the opponent’s point of view in order to better understand his nature, character, find out your similarities and differences, clarify certain details of your relationship.
Instruction manual
one
Immediately understand for yourself the limit that you will not cross, despite even the greatest anger. For example, if you are a man, never raise your hand on a woman in a fit of anger. This also applies to those who are much weaker than you - children and the elderly. And a woman during a quarrel with her husband should not do frivolous acts, for example, to expel her husband from home. If you really want to get a divorce, then this step should be deliberate, because there will be no turning back. Do not act under the influence of anger.
2
Do not say phrases like "it's your fault / fault
"or" you did wrong
". Your every statement should begin with the pronoun" I ":" I am so disappointed (a) … ", " I feel offended (oops)
"etc. There is a huge difference between the two approaches in clarifying the relationship. The first option is a categorical assessment of the person and the general situation, which always encourages the opponent to argue and prove otherwise.
3
Use the “I” more often during a scandal, so you will convey your feelings and feelings, let your opponent evaluate the situation yourself. After such statements, the offender will think and understand that you are really worried, and not trying to blame him.
4
Never get personal: don’t call a person a name, don’t speak badly about his relatives, don’t affect his physical disabilities or external flaws, religion, nationality, etc. These are forbidden tricks that should remain absolutely forbidden for you.
5
Do not start a quarrel just because you are bored and lacking “fire” in a relationship. Some people deliberately provoke their partners in order to reconcile violently in bed. Do not do this, because then you will not be able to satisfy your desires in another way, and in order to have sex, you will first need to quarrel greatly.
6
Do not scandal with strangers, children or relatives. It is also not worth while recalling all the misconduct, mistakes that once were.
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