Sometimes we happen to make mistakes in a person even when we know him for several years. What then to talk about those with whom we just met? Sometimes a lot can depend on how you correctly assessed the business qualities and decency of a person. To learn more about him will help those methods that psychologists use. The same methods are used by employees of recruitment agencies, recruiting personnel that meets certain requirements.
Instruction manual
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A lot can be found out about a person’s personality in a conversation. You do not have to ask anything directly. Ask your interlocutor if he drives well, speaks English, or cooks. An insecure person will say this, citing the opinions of others. A person who has his own opinion on everything and is not inclined to adjust his behavior depending on the circumstances, will refer to his own confidence.
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You can learn about the character of a person by asking him an innocent question about how he is going to spend the weekend. A person who is focused on the final result, who does not love and does not know how to do routine work, will inform you that he wants to watch a new film and relax in order to go to work with new forces. A person who is focused on the process will tell you that he needs rest, because he is very tired in a week and wants to sit quietly in the cinema, watch a comedy without thinking about anything. Such a person, as a rule, is diligent, likes to work with documents, painstakingly study papers, he likes the process itself.
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You can learn not only about the character, but also about the feelings that a person experiences in a conversation, not only by the speech forms used by him, but also by gestures that he makes completely involuntarily. An uncomfortable posture, sitting on the edge of a chair, shoes socks, turned to the sides of the exit, will tell you that the person is not interested in talking with you, he wants to stop it and leave.
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The fact that he is going to lie, say his hands covering his mouth or fingering his earlobe. His confidence in his innocence will be indicated by hands rested with their elbows on the table and raised up palms with fingers touching each other.
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Hands calmly lying on the table with open palms indicate that he trusts you and is ready to listen carefully. If at the same time a person feels free and is ready for a dialogue with you, he can unfasten his jacket and get comfortable, leaning back.
Useful advice
There are a lot of such speech and external manifestations of character and feelings. Study them so as not to make mistakes in people and find a common language with them, and this will help to achieve any of your goals.