When a person needs comfort, someone must come to his aid. Sadness and sorrow can be so unbearable and painful that they affect the psyche, physical and emotional health. The most important thing is to make it clear to the person that he is not alone, that he is heard, that you share his grief and suffering with him.
Instruction manual
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Listen up. A grieving and saddened person, at times, just needs someone nearby who is silent, listens to him, will only nod in response and hold his hand. Make sure you look him in the eye as you listen. Focus on him.
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Dissolve in a person to try to share his misfortune. An inconsolable person does not have the mental strength to listen about your suffering or your even more sad experience. Most often, he is immersed in himself, in his internal hard struggle, comprehension of what happened. Enough will be present nearby. Healing comes when the inner man survives his misfortune. If you talk about your problems, distract him, you will interrupt his self-medication.
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Be patient. Consolation will come by itself if a person allows his emotions to flow into his emotions - screaming, anger, tears, tantrum, anger, rage. Let him be himself at this moment, do not stop (only if he does not begin to harm himself). In the end, everything will end in sadness and comfort. Each person goes through his own process of comprehension, experience, and he has the right to it.
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Give the person as much time as he needs to grieve. By persuasion and exhortations such as "come to your senses, " "pull yourself together, " you will not help him console himself faster. Probably even piss him off.
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Show your attitude and support with a hug, handshake, sad expression. Try not to get annoyed if your best friend suddenly starts to ignore you and push you away. This will pass over time, when the pain and suffering subside a little.
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Make a grieving person seek professional help if they are in deep depression and apathy for a long time. Provide all possible assistance in arranging a meeting with the doctor to discuss with him the need for consultation or treatment.