For a confident person to look into the interlocutor’s eyes is natural and does not cause difficulties or inconveniences. But most people feel awkward and try to look away from the direct gaze of a partner. So how does one learn to look people in the eye?
Instruction manual
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To maintain eye contact, it is important not how much you look a person in the eye, but how you do it. People usually pay attention to the expression of your eyes. It can be supportive or oppressive, calm or nervous. In order to learn how to correctly look into the eyes of another person, you need to know some features.
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During the conversation, do not look at the interlocutor at the bridge of the nose, from this you lose the view of his face, his eyes seem to put pressure on him. A person is stewing, can be closed for further contact.
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You should also not unceremoniously consider, as they say, staring at others. By this you show elementary bad manners.
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Look at the interlocutor with a wide, slightly defocused look, moving to peripheral perception. Your gaze does not highlight a specific point, but as if it is slightly smeared all over the face, and you clearly catch the slightest movements of its muscles.
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The most difficult thing is, of course, to look into the eyes of a person and at the same time think about what you are saying. When talking, look at a person not with an appraising look, but supporting him. To do this, mentally take the interlocutor by the shoulder - this will give you a sense of control over the situation.
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To make your look warmer, imagine that you are stroking a person's hand during a conversation. So you calm yourself and gather your thoughts. For more direct and close communication, imbue with the feelings of the interlocutor. Try to try on his expression on his eyes, lip movements, body position. Establish spiritual contact with him - then you will not look away when talking.
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When communicating, look into the interlocutor’s eyes for no more than 5 seconds, then gently look away and look again into the eyes after a while. Such eye contact should take place throughout the conversation. You will keep the situation under control, notice how certain statements affect the interlocutor, you can change the tactics of negotiating in time.
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If you feel that a person is not comfortable under your gaze, look away for a while, look at the person’s hands, chest area. When the interlocutor calms down, you can again try to establish contact with the eyes. And after some time, you will feel unity with him, and the conversation will continue in a calm and friendly way.