It is always difficult to start a conversation, even if it is communication by correspondence. But even after overcoming psychological discomfort and firmly decide to start a conversation, a person does not know which words to choose.
Instruction manual
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Identify a motive. A person in communication seeks, first of all, benefits. Each one has her own: get rid of loneliness, gain new knowledge, make contacts in a certain environment, show off in front of new friends, increasing his self-esteem. Even if a person is not at all familiar (for example, it's just a nickname on the Internet), he still leaves traces of his mental life. And before you start a conversation, it would be nice to drive his name, email address (or username, if it's unique enough) over the Internet. If it turns out that a stunning handsome man has a habit of borrowing money from his virtual girlfriends and disappear without a trace, then the question of correspondence should disappear by itself.
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A request that is pleasant to fulfill. If this is communication on a social network, it will be useful to look at the person’s interests or place of residence, and then come up with a question that the interlocutor will be able to easily and pleasantly answer by demonstrating knowledge of the subject. At the same time, it is not necessary to ask direct and unsophisticated questions such as: "Is it scary to jump with a parachute?" It is not enough to communicate with a layman. It is better to dig a little deeper into the topic in order to appear in front of the interlocutor as a person, even a beginner.
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Skills that may interest the interlocutor. This method is suitable when a person himself is open to communication, openly talks about his interests, seeks to show himself, puts a lot of personal photos, especially beach ones, at home from parties. Here it will be appropriate to express sympathy (but without obsession and outright flattery) and offer communication, telling a little about yourself. A neat phrase in the spirit: “You seemed / seemed to me a nice and open person. I think it will be interesting for us to talk about …” In this case, it will be appropriate to offer your help in the area that seems most interesting to a person. If a girl is interested in a certain direction in music, then she can expand her horizons to interest her.
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Good manners. A person who seeks to drastically reduce the distance in communication, often alarms and repels. And the interlocutor, who begins correspondence in soft, delicate expressions, retains a sincere intonation and does not try to embellish and cheat, makes the most favorable impression. In communication by correspondence, the first two or three letters are the most important. And in order to disguise some flaws (for example, illiteracy or ignorance of complex words), you have to use dictionaries, books, magazines, websites - additional literature.
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Originality. Remember the question from the Soviet film: "Hello. Can you tell me where the nofelet is?" If the person you are talking to is young and light, then after the greeting you can write a funny question that will cause interest. Correspondence Ping-Pong is a special sport that appreciates humor and the ability to think without boring. But these skills must be honed.
note
Rudeness and importunity, and in some cases illiteracy, can alienate even the mildest person.
Useful advice
An interesting letter consists of an original question, an interesting interlocutor of information and a veiled compliment.
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