Irritability is one of the most unpleasant personality traits. People prone to irritability collect a sea of negative feedback from others. This makes them even more angry, and their sense of irritation increases. How to get out of this vicious circle?
Instruction manual
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Analyze what or who annoys you. It very rarely happens that a person is annoyed by everything. Usually the source of irritation is one, but it pours out on many. We must find this source and understand what to do with it.
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Avoid sources of irritation. If the cause of irritation does not lie in your immediate environment, you should avoid it. There is no need to waste your nerve cells once again. For example, if you are "enraged" by queues at Sberbank, go pay utility bills to a commercial bank or use ATMs. If people on the subway are annoying, look for ways to travel outside rush hour, if possible.
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Look for sources of bitterness in people in yourself. The fact is that we are most annoyed in others by the shortcomings that we ourselves have. But in our psyche there are special protections that do not allow us to evaluate ourselves too critically. And then criticism changes the focus of attention - someone who has the same vice as yours gets into her field of vision. Realize this fact, understand what exactly annoys you in yourself.
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Learn to control emotions. Many people tend to discuss their problems with others many times. Especially “suffer” the fair sex. In kitchen conversations, even the happiest wife will find a reason to quarrel with her husband, if it is customary in her company of friends. And now unpleasant emotions have already arisen from scratch, which she takes away with her to the house, and there they begin their destructive action.
Useful advice
Remember that irritation is a useful emotion whose function is to indicate a problem. As soon as you feel irritation, identify its cause and eliminate it. It makes no sense to accumulate and cultivate irritability in oneself. Have the courage to face life's difficulties.