The feeling of resentment is familiar to every person. Resentment, penetrating the heart, poisons the mood and can even negatively affect the physical condition. How to cope with an insult, to prevent it from transforming into a prolonged depression?
If you are offended, first of all, try to calm down so that you can’t commit actions in the state of affect, the consequences of which will be difficult to correct.
Autotraining techniques, a walk in the fresh air or, if possible, any relaxing procedure will help to cope with the primary manifestations of resentment. If you give offense to develop, then a whole bunch of negative emotions can be added to this feeling: disappointment, perplexity, frustration, anger, and even the desire to take revenge.
It is important to realize that resentment is most often unjustified expectations. You did not receive the expected actions from any person or vice versa - you did not receive at all what you wanted or deserved, in your opinion.
Find out if your opponent could know, or at least guess about your expectations. Did you talk to him about your aspirations, or simply expected that you would guess? Very often, women take offense at men, expecting from them what they do not even guess about.
Turn on self-criticism and think: maybe your resentment is a manifestation of hypertrophied pride, when everything around you does not happen in your way, and you are trying to attract special attention with your demonstrative insults. Then honestly you need to admit that you are poisoning life not only to yourself, but also to others.
Try such a psychological technique that effectively eliminates the feeling of resentment: in the imagination, imagine yourself the lawyer of your offender and try to defend your opponent. It is quite possible that you will begin to reflect adequately, then you will be able to justify your offender and understand why the misunderstanding came about. And to understand is already a big step towards forgiving.
Forgiving your offender even in your soul is the best thing you can do for your peace of mind, even if you haven’t apologized to you. After forgiveness, you will get rid of exhausting internal monologues and dialogues with the offender and restore peace of mind. Christians themselves are the first to ask for forgiveness from their offenders, rightly believing that they themselves are to blame for this offense. Such wonderful human qualities as humility, wisdom, kindness, peacefulness and generosity are manifested in this act.