What if every day your relationship breaks down more and more? You understand that a person who recently was everything to you, moves away from you and becomes completely alien. How to restore this seemingly lost relationship? A few time-tested tips.
Relationships are not easy. And if young girls and guys always, as they say, "soar" over how to start them, where to find a mate and enjoy happiness with your soulmate, then they have no idea what will happen after all this it will happen. Well, actually, it doesn't have to be bad. But, if you read this, it means that your relationship almost led to collapse. It makes absolutely no difference whether you are a man or a woman. It’s not even so important how old you are. People do stupid things regardless of gender and age.
The first piece of advice I would like to give you is a very simple rule. And he sounds like this: "Think of others." So simple and concise. But even if you are considered the most understanding person and altruist in general in your circles, I would still recommend that you read a further explanation of this rule.
How often do you think about how others feel? And specifically - your closest person? No matter how much you take care of him, how often do you really imagine yourself in his place? And during your most violent quarrel? I bet, obviously not so often. And from this, in fact, all the problems are obtained. When you do something for someone, first of all think about how you yourself would treat it. Is it bad, is it good, is not the point. Only feelings are important. Think about it - not for a second, satisfied with "what I would like", but very clearly and clearly, forgetting who you are, completely merging with that person. Perhaps your idea will be completely different from what it seemed? This method is especially effective during quarrels. But during them it is much more difficult to do. It is difficult to tame your rage and abstract from the fact that you are angry. Difficult, but possible. And it is necessary. If you learn to manage your emotions and in the midst of a dispute you will be able to look at the situation from the side, see how much pain you inflict on a loved one with your cries, or, on the contrary, indifference, you will understand how his heart breaks, or, on the contrary, you realize all the coldness of someone what you thought you loved. To understand the emotions of another person, you must forget about your own for a moment. And, remember, understanding is an essential part of a relationship. Everything is much more complicated than it seems.
Do not believe deceptive impressions, believe in each other.