Too high demands on people, as a rule, ultimately lead to disappointment in them, since your expectations are not met. To avoid constant dissatisfaction with others, it is worth changing your worldview in some way.
Instruction manual
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Expecting a person from this or that action, answer the question: why should he do this? Because you really want it? Or because it is so envisaged by the norms of public morality? Or for some other reason? It is wrong to demand or expect from a person something that you want. Remember that each person is free to choose his own path, and you cannot set someone your own conditions, imposing the algorithm of life that seems to be the only true one for you.
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Realize your desires yourself, without shifting the responsibility for their implementation to others. For example, if you are dreaming of a career for your husband, you think that by all means he should strive to take a leading position, etc. But your spouse may think very differently, a career may not be included in his plans at all, as his interests may be in other areas - his favorite hobby, family, friends, etc. Due to these disagreements, conflicts and misunderstandings will arise in your family. The most correct thing in this situation will be the decision to realize your desire on your own - build your own career, being responsible, first of all, for your own destiny.
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Learn to respect the opinions of other people, do not consider yourself always and in everything absolutely right. Remember that all people are different, each has its own scale of values, its own worldview, which can be different from yours. Your conviction that everyone should do just that, and not otherwise, is wrong. Yes, in society there are some unwritten norms of behavior, etiquette, but, firstly, not all people have the same level of education, and secondly, many rules are now just morally obsolete, you and the younger generation can look at them completely in different ways.
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Remember that in the world there are no perfect people, each person along with positive character traits is endowed with some kind of flaws. Give up the habit of idealizing a person, raising him to the rank of almost a saint, remember that everyone can have weaknesses, complexes, fears, prejudices, etc.
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More often analyze your own actions in relation to other people. Answer your questions honestly: have you done everything that was expected of you? Have you failed a person in anything? Have you offended anyone? So you will very quickly realize that you, too, are far from being the most perfect person, that perhaps someone, just like you, is waiting for an act from you that you simply cannot do for any objective or subjective reasons.