There is no more difficult test than parting with a loved one. Especially if the breakup of your relationship happened unexpectedly. And even if the decision to leave is already brewing, the pain and feelings of desolation in the soul will not become less. These feelings need to be experienced and put up with parting.
Instruction manual
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Put an end to your relationship yourself. To do this, you need to calmly talk with the initiator of the breakup and state everything that is in your heart. This conversation will create a psychological sense of completed action and help you more easily accept separation. In cases where the conversation is impossible or the former lover does not want to communicate, send him a letter or record a sound message.
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Often, insulting a lover who has abandoned you causes more suffering than the feeling of loss. In this case, psychologists advise a symbolic act of farewell. To do this, come up with some kind of ritual and perform it. For example, find a large stone and imagine that it symbolizes your failed relationship. Take it to the river and throw it away, mentally imagining that you are throwing away all your negative emotions with it. The act of destroying photos and gifts of a former partner has a good effect. However, this should be an extreme option. After all, after many years, you may want to remember all the good that was between you.
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The best way to put up with a breakup is to start a new relationship. They do not have to immediately become close. Make friends with a pleasant person and communicate with him. Just do not try to completely dissolve in these relationships and begin to live the life of a new partner, becoming his shadow. This is guaranteed to lead to where you started - parting. Do not sacrifice your time and career for the sake of relationships - value yourself.
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Unfortunately, all people tend to repeat their mistakes again and again due to the fact that once and for all they have acquired a certain stereotype of communication. Most often, this unknowingly occurs in childhood. But becoming an adult and having failed in a love relationship, it is worth considering and analyzing your behavior. What are you doing wrong with what scares off your partner? In this you can help children's memories of parental relationships. Change your communication style and do not make old mistakes.
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And the last one. It takes time to fully come to terms with parting. Your body, brain needs to be rebuilt and get rid of emotional and physical dependence. After all, even if you quit smoking, it takes some time. And your situation is much more complicated. The main thing - do not let yourself lose heart and set yourself up positively. Thoughts often come true. Mentally draw yourself with whom you will be happy, and this person will certainly appear on your horizon soon.