Adequate self-esteem is the key to a happy life and personal success of a person. If you feel that your attitude towards yourself is below the right level, work on yourself.
You will need
- - a piece of paper;
- - a pen.
Instruction manual
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Understand that you underestimate yourself. Believe that you deserve a good attitude. Excessive self-criticism and self-abasement is abnormal. Such self-determination prevents you from achieving success in many areas of life. When you recognize the need for reform in your own mind, then you will be ready for change.
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Think about what your low self-esteem consists of. Perhaps it was influenced by unflattering remarks of others, the burden of mistakes of the past, the absence of any serious achievements in life or non-acceptance of oneself. It is worth dealing with each of these reasons.
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If your self-esteem has become underestimated due to the opinions of other people, consider why their attitude is so important to you. Even if they are an example for you to succeed in life, you must not allow these individuals to influence your self-esteem. Define a list of people you usually think of. Now delete from the list those who do not support, but only criticize you. From now on, you do not listen to the words of these people, pass their comments by the ears and, if possible, limit communication with them.
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Perhaps you cannot forgive yourself for any mistakes made in the past. Then first determine how at the moment the consequences of your actions in the old days affect your life. Do not consider missed opportunities. Now there is no reason to regret them. Moreover, it is still unknown how your life would turn out if you had acted differently in due time. Analyze your behavior, just consider what motives then guided you. Imagine that you judge a loved one, be lenient and forgive yourself for everything that happened.
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Low self-esteem can be formed due to the fact that you do not value your own achievements, do not celebrate your victories. The reason for this situation may lie in the pursuit of the ideal. Then remember that perfectionism does not lead to anything good. Learn to be content with the average result. Maybe you are such a purposeful person that, having barely completed one task, immediately set yourself the next. Stop, celebrate the victory, find some encouragement for yourself, praise yourself.
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If you suffer from low self-esteem because you don’t love yourself enough, you should work on self-acceptance. Stop comparing yourself to someone. Find maximum merits in your character and appearance. If you can’t do without a competitive element, then make a comparison with those people who are less successful, beautiful and smart than you.