It's no secret that our friends are our support and support, as we are for them. Everywhere and always we support them, but sometimes there are situations in which their interest runs counter to ours or they themselves don’t know what they are doing, but they turn to us for help. And we are forced to refuse them.
Instruction manual
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First of all, listen to everything your friend wants to tell you. Let him speak out to the end. It may well be that you do not see the whole picture, but see only what he wants to show you.
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Find out why he needs what he asks for. Do not be satisfied with short answers, ask from beginning to end. Argument your questioning by the fact that you don’t understand why he is addressing you, that he actually has opportunities and resources for independent action.
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Ask for time to make a decision. Instant refusal can easily push a person away from you, and if not forever, then definitely for a long time. Time can be anything - from a few hours to a couple of days, but it must be.
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